I recently learned there are games where you don’t even need a TV or computer. What an exciting new world!
Sorry, I have ADHD. You can keep your cardboard agony simulators, just don’t ask me to play them.
Like a steam deck?
VR
Getting into Quake Champions helped cure this after realizing how bad most competitive fps games are now
They suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck I love stunting on people with the stupidest loadouts in CoD, Going 20:1 in CoD by just holding a hallway with stabilized machine gun never stops being funny. Eventually the SBMM will boot me up to sweatlord territory but until then just using basic infantry tactics and pieing corners for kills while people flop around like neurotoxin poisoned trouts trying to be cool movement shooter dudes is hilarious. When I learned you could cook grenades with extreme precision I did nothing but airburst grenades in people’s faces for like two days.
Try Hunt Showdown if you want something really different. It’s all old school cowboy guns, and two hits to the upper chest kills with any weapon within it’s effective range except bows, shotguns, and the elephant gun. It gives fights a very different pacing. It’s PvPvE with twelve players in teams of 1-3 competing to track down a boss monster, kill it, then extract with the bounty before someone else guns them down> The game is brilliantly constructed so that players organically move towards each other as they progress through each hunt. Instead of a big death circle forcing people together players want to do things that lead them towards one another, and hte result is that you know peolple are coming, but you never quite know from where. It has the best positional audio in gaming - You can hear every gunshot from anywhere in the 1kmx1km maps, you can tell roughly what kind of gun it was, whether it was inside or outside, and almost precisely what direction it was from. Which means every time you want to shoot you’re telling the whole map where you are. Managing how much noise you make is a huge aspect of the game that is one of the first skill floors new players have to climb to.
It sucks that quake only lives through QC, QC is such a garbage game. The client is half assed. The entire game is still in early access. The movement and shooting mechanics are fine but I hate champions and abilities 0/10
Hard disagree. I think the champions add a lot and the client feels great on mid-range+ systems
The gameplay and physics is good, I meant the overall UI. It takes forever to load a map and navigate the UI.
I think it’s fair to disagree on the gameplay. It’s just not what quake was and means to me.
Ah I see. I have pretty high end hardware so loading times are pretty good for me but, yea when I play on my old laptop it can be a little rough.
Ui feels ok to me tho
Quake 3 arena and quake live are also good. And of course Titanfall 2.
Titanfall 2 was still being ddos’d last time I tried :/
All quake is good tho :) and diabotical, but Quake Champions is my personal fav
I haven’t played in a while but it worked last time I tried (a few months ago maybe) otherwise you can play using the third party launcher and servers.
Same, but for me it’s because of the depression
Then get off social media
Pretty sure I’m in the same boat. Literally nothing is enjoyable anymore and I have 0 motivation to do anything “productive” after work since it’s all just more work…
My friends must think im nuts when they see me bounce from game to game to game within 1-2 hours because nothing keeps my attention lol
Need a different hobby. Electric unicycling is great for this.
TIL
This has been me the majority of the time since about 2020, which I chalk up to depression and more recently suspecting that I have ADHD (I know self-diagnosing isn’t cool, I intend to explore this more formally eventually, but I have many reasons for suspecting it in general). Sometimes it’s bad enough that if something doesn’t grab me in 5-15 minutes, I’ll bounce off to something else and probably repeat the cycle a few more times before giving up and doing something else instead.
I find that I can’t really play modern games at all anymore. They just feel like work and are more concerned with monetization rather than being enjoyable to play. Modern experiences feel so hollow to me now. I miss when the main draw of a multiplayer game was feeling your skills improve rather than spending 100+ hours to get some skin from grinding out a battlepass. It feels like a chore. I fell off of TOTK in May and apparently haven’t been too eager to return to it. I’ve been doing a decent job sticking with Mass Effect lately though. Helps that it runs perfectly on Steam Deck so I don’t always have to be on my PC. It’s my first time playing ME1, which helps. We’ll see if I can stick with it through 2 and 3, which I played many years ago.
This has also led to me drifting apart from many of the people who I previously considered to be my friends. Most of them barely leave the house anymore and only hang out and communicate on Discord, which I am barely on anymore due to my general lack of interest in games lately, my general disinterest in modern games specifically (which is all they play), and my disinterest in participating in more voice calls after being in Teams calls during the workday beforehand. They also have significantly more free time than I do due to almost all of them being single, so the rare times I have tried to play anything progress-based with them has been a bust because I inevitably fall behind. It’s unfortunate to drift apart like that, but it took longer than it should have for me to realize that we probably weren’t actually that close if me losing interest in games is all it took for them to cut me out. Oh well.
I know, self diagnosing isn’t cool
It’s cool and useful as a starting point. The main thing is to be authentic and say it the way you said it: That you suspect it.
I know a few people on the suspectrum, and it’s fine as long as you don’t try and claim that you most definitely have the thing and that your self diagnosis is valid/means you should have access to healthcare/etc.
Thanks, I appreciate your perspective, and I’m glad to hear that I’ve been handling the communication aspect of it properly - I’ve never used my suspicion as an excuse or justification of anything, so far I have just told a few trusted people that I suspect I have it, basically like I said here.
I have experienced several financial rough patches in the past year (job loss due to my employer shutting down, for example), but now that things have seemingly stabilized, I hope to begin pursuing a formal diagnosis soon, and I look forward to doing so! Thanks again.
Best of luck getting diagnosed! I know in a lot of places it can be tricky. For me my GP did it for my ADHD, apparently it was that clear and obvious.
Yup, that flame died out a long time ago.
Depression is a bitch.
And age :(
That’s just burnout
I just play bloons now. Im somewhat of a hardcore gamer still
BTD6?
That game is so addicting…
I don’t play games with dark patterns anymore. And seems like almost all of them went deep into that territory which severely limits what I can play.
Comes and goes in waves for me. I find games wbere me and my friends are just having fun still brings that feeling.
This isn’t unique to video games*. It can happen with anything that you spend a ton of time on, and either burn out on or start to develop more refined taste in. I’ve had it happen with:
- novels
- board games
- movies
- people
You start to see patterns, tropes, or just plain get burnt out on something. It’s a sign you either need to take a break, or that your tastes have simply become refined enough that you require a higher bar to find something interesting.
I’m in my 40s and definitely don’t play games as much as I used to. But there are still times I get sucked in and have a great time. Most recent example: Cosmoteer, a spaceship building game with loads of freedom and creativity. I’m also looking forward to the Factorio DLC and the Dyson Sphere Program combat update.
* though the enshittification phenomenon is a real thing, and why people should play more indie games
With some of the really good games that have come out recently, I’ve learned it really isn’t just me not having interest/motivation. It is, in fact, that most games just fucking suck now. 🤷🏻♂️
AAA titles are mostly re-optomized towards selling you more of the game, by withholding that game’s content and reselling it for more than they would’ve gotten.
This is partly a side effect of game value being mostly stagnant for years but also just greed in general.
Indie games have been a huge boon for me due to that, no bullshit, just a game; a fun game.
Literally, indie titles and games made by smaller companies (AA titles like Dishonored) have been the most fun for me to date.
Looking at what games I’ve always liked: this has always been true. Back in the 90’s, most of the big companies now were like 4 dudes in a garage and they had passion.
Now a lot of the names I once respected are scam artists and jackasses and a lot of the companies sold to bigger companies who then gutted them, stripped the IPs they consumed of any value, and turn greatness into shit.
Try Ghost of Tsushima or other great games but only short ones, avoid no man sky for now or other long games. Let it rest for a while and come back to it later.
Play some games completely different from what you’re used to.
Idk if it is me getting older or if videogames just suck now.
They don’t have the same punch but there are games that will bring that excitement back.
I’m over 40 and finding wands in Noita fills me with joy.
“So, this one homes on enemies, has triple cast and delayed explosions… Hmmm, but what does orbital and bouncy do together?”
*shoots near beehive*
>Entire screen explodes
And I just restart the game with a grin. I feel like that game made what actual magic would be. Starting the game by silently teaching us about the dangers of fire was a stroke of genius. It’s always fire with magic, just weirder, bigger and wilder types of fire, and both me and my enemies don’t command it, we simply live in a world with it. Nothing but a video game could make me experience this. Nothing but a video game could generate near endless amounts of endlessly unlearnable amounts of raging wildfires to be amused by.
Noita is amazing.
Looking forward to playing it! This comment sold it haha
I would argue it’s a side effect of getting older.
Not that you’re growing out of games, but moreso that you’re spending more time working, and doing other life related things that gaming no longer feels productive of fun.
I’m working full time and take online classes, but I really love gaming still, I’ve just had to find games that respect my time, since my time is so precious to me right now.
I’ve grown to loath multiplayer match-based games because it’s the same thing over and over again with nothing to show for it, while things like DOOM, Skyrim, Dishonored, older assassins creed games, and various indie titles are all quick, fun, to the point and offer good stories that I enjoy.
I just can’t deal with round after round after round of the same thing. Or an MMO where it’s just “Do this for hours and hours to grind out this skill and that skill”
Like I want to play the game, not click 30,000 times.
You’re getting older unfortunately. I’ve been watching this happen among my friends for a long while now. They all slowly grow up and leave gaming behind replacing it with other hobbies or interests. Your free time becomes more limited the older you get and the more responsibilities you aquire in life (career, spouse, children, etc.). I’m one of the last hold outs from my childhood friend group, and even I’m slowly starting to lose interest in gaming. I don’t think I’ll ever give it up entirely, but it definitely doesn’t hold the same appeal for me that it once had.
If I can ask, around how old are you and your friends? How many years do I have left Doc?
I’m in my early 40’s. I’m still hanging in there, and I do still enjoy gaming, just not with the same passion or levels of enjoyment I once had. Every once in a while a new game drops that will bring it back but only for a little while though.
Good to hear you can still have fun with them, even if it’s muted in comparison to before. I imagine after so long, the reused game mechanics in most stuff would start to feel stale for anyone.
Hope you get some bangers in your favorite genres soon!
Well, and video games suck now. More and more they are just becoming over-glorified skinner boxes full of micro transactions and bullshit.
There’s nothing really “new” anymore, at least not mechanics-wise. Sure, graphics have become pretty good looking. But it’s all still the same RPGs, first person shooters, and other shit from the 90s. When I see modern FPSs, I’m still seeing Wolfenstein 3D from 1992. Not a damn thing has changed.
If you’re playing the same types of games ,yeah
Its not your age, it’s the games you’re playing. There’s a ton of great games out right now, but if you’re playing the same kinds of games you’ve always played, maybe you’ve outgrown them. You could be frustrated with their mechanics, or think their progression isn’t as good as the old games, maybe you cant see as well or grind as hard as these twelve year olds on adderall, whatever it may be.
Try playing games you enjoyed before. You’ll probably still like them. Branch out into different genres, even if it’s something you don’t know if you’ll like or not. I don’t care for top down games, but gave Hades a try and absolutely loved it. Maybe try to play remakes/remasters/new takes on old games. The REmakes for Resident Evil (particularly 2&4, I liked 3 but it gets a lot of deserved hate), and even the continuation of the RE franchise in Biohazard and Village are fun and scary. Just some recommendations. :)
Definitely changeling taste and enshittification. Don’t care to play another million dollars AAA fps-box purchaseing simulator or whatever this years dead horse is.
Get me a chill basebulding and automation game and I will literally risk unemployment from staying up late. Bonus points for boobs or warcrimes.
You played Against the Storm yet? I find it’s the best base building game. No war crimes yet unfortunately
Looks interesting, I’ll try the demo if I get a chance. Looks like there’s no modding yet though.
Definetly the second one.
The classics are the best. 🕹️
It’s both. The 90s are never coming back, and you’ll never be however-old-you-were-during-the-90s.
Probably both. A lot of games really do suck ass. CoD is just comically bad in so many ways.
There’s some cool stuff out there, though. battlebit is aces, better than any CoD or Battlefield in years. Hunt Showdown is unqiue and cool. Darktide is an awesome horde shooter. Warframe… is warframe. Deep Rock Galactic is fun spacedorf action. Splitgate mixes up old school HALO:CE gameplay with portals that let you pull off cool kills or radically change the movement rountes across the map. There’s ARMA3 and Reforger if you like milsim, with varyiung levels of milsimminess from “Sir yes sir” tryhards to people who just try to use basic infantry tactics and cooperate. There’s apparently a huge star wars mod scene right now.
lol I played CoD BLOps at the opening and had the existential moment of “WTF am I doing with my life”. It’s so shitty.
Microtransactions are killing, or have killed if you’re cynical, modern gaming. Whether you have disposable income or not, it is viscerally tedius to try to escape into a game just to be pestered to use real money. I play games to avoid our capitalist exploitation dystopia, not further engage with it.
I’ve largely abandoned live games for this reason. I used to be good at online FPS, but it just isn’t worth the “buy this skin or you suck” every single login bullshit. I’ve been modding the Bethesda games and there’s really no getting bored of those world’s with constant new enthusiast content.
You’re not crazy, you just need to get away from 40 hour long open world chore games
I started liking games again by going back to long open world games
Arcade style games that give you a quick hit are what I miss. Things that drop you straight in the action and don’t let up.
I think some are making a bit of a come back on the Indy scene though.
Bro. Broforce
I got back into gaming with “bullet hell” games like Vampire Survivor and 20 Minutes till Dawn. All action and no BS, but they do get repetitive after a while.
I recently started playing Diablo4 and that was pretty fun. I am trying to like Baulders Gate 3, but my patience for dialogue and wandering around is not what it used to be, and it never was that high to begin with. It is an impressive game though, which might help me stick with it.
Vampire Survivors is amazing! I can’t believe it’s so cheap. It’s also one of those games that could have easily been microtransactioned to hell and back, but the worst I’ve seen is a few optional ad’s in the mobile version of the game. It’s a bit harder to play on mobile than on PC which is a bummer.
As for BG3, I’ve been very slow to start, and it does feel like a lot up front. I think the problem for me is I’m used to these kinds of games where I’d treat it like the Witcher or HZD and check off every box and complete everything I come across, and exhaust all dialogue options. The beauty of BG3 that I’m starting to realize is I can actually immerse myself in it like an actual role playing game. My last few play sessions I’ve actively been working against my instincts of trying to be the all-star savior of the world, the do no wrong Commander Shepard good guy liked by everyone, and instead choose an identity and play their story out. Having that mindset and treating the game like a marathon and not trying to keep pace with a community (like in WoW or something) is really what I’m enjoying about it.
I guess what I’m saying is, it’s a refreshing change of pace with BG3 to sit back and enjoy the journey, rather than race to the end and inevitably burn myself out in the game trying to min/max everything.
I started playing Ys origin again, such a simple fun game with instant action and feels good combat.
Yup. That’s me. I have to have games where it doesn’t rely on you logging on for a few hours a night, every night…. yeah sorry not gonna happen with a wife who doesn’t like video games and a 2 year old to entertain.
All entertainment fills a need in your daily life. It only makes sense that the need changes as you grow older.
When I was younger, I was poor and had something to prove. Thus, I loved big games with hundreds of hours of gameplay, grinding for the best bobbles, and competitive multiplayer experiences.
But as I get older, I don’t care about any of that anymore. What I need instead is a way to relax within my short gaming windows, to have unique experiences, and maybe have a sense of control as my life gets more chaotic. As a result, I’ve tended more towards shorter indie titles. But also towards non-gaming things like travel, gardening, and crafting hobbies.
We spent so much of our lives building our identity around a single hobby - gaming. And maybe that was a mistake. So many of us end up sliding away from gaming as we get older and that change is okay and even expected, that shouldn’t give us an existential crisis.
Your identity should reflect the person you are, not the thing you do.
Getting old is strange. I keep trying to go to house or techno shows in the basement of restaurants or other weird places, convinced it’ll be a great time because I used to enjoy it. My knees hurt and I’d rather be home most of the time. It’s okay for things to have a beginning, middle, and end. Also, not to be nitpicky but just because I think it’s a fun word: it’s “baubles”
I can totally relate about edm shows. My knees tend to say hell no these days.
I’m in my late 20s and have realized two things about video games
- I’ve invested hundreds of hours into games and I’ve got absolutely nothing to show for that time investment, and basically nothing to brag about at work or to friends
- The last couple of years I’ve been more often playing games to pass time than for the actual love of whatever game I’m playing
So I’ve been trying to spend my time doing other things. If there isn’t a compelling game I want to play at that moment I don’t just play games until I find one that compells me again, I just do something else entirely.
My wife on the other hand has realized she really enjoys video games and sees it as “look at all of this time I could have spent playing video games and experiencing these things!” So I suppose that gives some perspective that it’s not all for nothing
We all die alone. Doesn’t really matter how you get there. If you can amuse yourself while you wait for death that’s usually preferable to the alternative.
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If you can’t justify having something you enjoy by saying “it’s not anything I can physically show some achievement for” are you sure you’re doing it/quitting it for the right reasons?
I read for pleasure sometimes, it’s usually not anything I can talk to anyone about since it’s usually older scifi, but I wouldn’t consider that a “waste of time.”
Also, if you tell anyone in the age bracket of 25-35 that you beat Halo 2: LASO they’ll know youve been in the trenches, it’s not necessarily all for nothing if you have people that share the hobby.
I try not to think of having a “thing” to show others when judging how I’ve spent my time.
If it makes your life more enjoyable, it is generally a good use of your time IMO.
