Why YSK: These email tips are helpful for people who struggle with boundaries and want to communicate more assertively.

  • TowardsTheFuture@vlemmy.net
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    1 year ago

    Saying It’d be easier to discuss in person comes off as “I can’t legally put this in writing because it’s against your contract” and not “this is hard to word/explain.” Lol. This is straight PR shit.

    • ickplant@lemmy.worldOP
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      1 year ago

      This was created by a comic creator with ADHD. A lot of these are helpful for people with loose time boundaries.

    • bleistift2@feddit.de
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      1 year ago

      I hate people doing that. It means that they can’t be bothered to think about their problem and what it actually is that they want from me.

      If you can’t put it in words, you can’t put it in words. Changing the medium from mail to sound won’t help. Thinking will.

      • kittyrunningnoise@lemm.ee
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        1 year ago

        that’s not necessarily what it means. some things legitimately are easier to explain in person. ever try working out a complicated mathematical argument in an email? one can do it, but it’s not pretty. in person you can write on paper, draw figures, etc., synchronously with your compatriot observing and even participating. it’s not merely a change of medium from text to sound.

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            1 year ago

            In a personal meeting you instantly get feedback on what the other understands and what needs in-depth explanation, and they can ask questions. It’s nothing like an email conversation.

    • snooggums@kbin.social
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      1 year ago

      Depends on who says it and whether they document it after. I do meet up to discuss when I have a lot of questions that will likely lead to questions, but I summarize it in a reply to the email so it is in writing.

      A past jerk of a boss used the same phrase to mean what you said, but since he didn’t put anything in writing none of the rants he called discussions mattered as he couldn’t use them against me.