Attempting to police whom people are allowed to communicate with is a standard tactic cults use to manipulate and exert control over their victims. it’s part of the BITE model of authoritarian control.

Although I for one generally don’t care to meet or talk to transphobes, racists, fascists, or traditionalist conservative types who simp to the peer pressure of dead people, I will not stand for some third party trying to make the judgement call FOR me. I don’t need some meddlesome middle-man gatekeeper superimposing their expectations upon me. Gatekeepers (who try to control OTHER people’s gates) go on the same list as the tradcon bigot scum. It’s MY business who I choose to talk to and why. And I also make it a point not to police who OTHERS get to talk to.