I didn’t disagree with that, in fact I agree with her response in that regard as I’ve written.
If that specific argument came from anyone but a hexbear user I would’ve thought some pretty unkind things about the person on the other end, as of now I just think it’s an accidental comment that wasn’t intended, but I can’t not point it out as it’s the exact language that would be used to scare the gays back into the closet when I was in school. “Oh you better not do that, you might look gay”, one I’m all too familiar with.
There were plenty of other analogies that didn’t involve gay, or fucking men as an apparent negative thing
In my experience, sexual inferences are the fastest way to educate someone who doesn’t see a word as being gendered, but I can see how what they said could be read as using gay sexual activity in a negative way to someone not reading this thread and skimmed over the rest of the text in that reply.
Playing dumb is used by bigots as a shield to continue their bigotry unimpeded. Not allowing any room for them to play dumb is the only way to reach those kind of people.
Playing dumb is used by bigots as a shield to continue their bigotry unimpeded. Not allowing any room for them to play dumb is the only way to reach those kind of people.
I’m aware, I’m on her side in this matter to be clear. She’s right to call out “dude”, and in fact it’s a disrespectful term anyway to say to non-friends.
Personally I try to use ungendered terms as much as possible online, and will call out weird assumptions on gender as well. English at least has it great on that front as using genders is a choice in that language (unlike some other European languages I know…).
Though it’s neat you all have the pronouns in the user, and I will of course use the pronouns when available/known.
The only argument she’s making is that dudes is a gendered term, and him doubling down after the fact is bullshit
I didn’t disagree with that, in fact I agree with her response in that regard as I’ve written.
If that specific argument came from anyone but a hexbear user I would’ve thought some pretty unkind things about the person on the other end, as of now I just think it’s an accidental comment that wasn’t intended, but I can’t not point it out as it’s the exact language that would be used to scare the gays back into the closet when I was in school. “Oh you better not do that, you might look gay”, one I’m all too familiar with.
There were plenty of other analogies that didn’t involve gay, or fucking men as an apparent negative thing
In my experience, sexual inferences are the fastest way to educate someone who doesn’t see a word as being gendered, but I can see how what they said could be read as using gay sexual activity in a negative way to someone not reading this thread and skimmed over the rest of the text in that reply.
Playing dumb is used by bigots as a shield to continue their bigotry unimpeded. Not allowing any room for them to play dumb is the only way to reach those kind of people.
I’m aware, I’m on her side in this matter to be clear. She’s right to call out “dude”, and in fact it’s a disrespectful term anyway to say to non-friends.
Personally I try to use ungendered terms as much as possible online, and will call out weird assumptions on gender as well. English at least has it great on that front as using genders is a choice in that language (unlike some other European languages I know…).
Though it’s neat you all have the pronouns in the user, and I will of course use the pronouns when available/known.