• CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
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    7 months ago

    No cis man would possibly want to dress as a girl, if he was cis it would give him unbelievable dysphoria. The fact that he doesn’t proves he isn’t entirely cis in and of itself.

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      Well for one thing, that’s absolutely not true. I know cis men that do drag shows. Men that are part of femboy culture are doing a gender we call femboy.

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        If they’re trans in denial they aren’t really cis, they’re dressing and acting as women, which shows their gender incongruences, same with “femboys”. Cis people don’t have the desire to be pretty, dress as a woman, act as a woman, talk with a womanly voice, to have boobs, etc.

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          I am cis, yet I used to wear women’s jeans because my ass is glorious, and back in my day they just didn’t make form flattering clothes for men. Wore foundation and a little make up to help boost my self esteem and hide my scars, and enhance my natural beauty, and acted “as a woman” because I was already androgynous as fuck, and I had a lot of fun watching people get mindfucked and perplexed when they found out I was a non gender conforming mechanic.

          There are many reasons to wear women’s clothes, you don’t get to invalidate everyone else because you think everyone who has enjoyed some things from “the other side of the fence” is trans, in denial and you are the only one who knows better and can save them.

          That is some real “white savior” grade bullshit, mate.

          Glad you’re getting yeeted.

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      Your experience is your own, not everyone else’s. Gendered clothing is the result of societal views. If someone doesn’t subscribe to that shit, there’s no reason they can’t wear what they want and feel fine.

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          Yeah, basically. Or gender roles if that’s a better term. I don’t suffer dysphoria from cooking and cleaning even though boomers tell me that’s what women are supposed to do. Why can’t that extend to clothing?

          You’re being gender essentialist from the other extreme.

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          I didn’t think I’d ever actually come across a transmedicalist in the wild. Fuck off, you’re not welcome.

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            It’s like… Prescriptive transmedicalism though. Like normally they say if you don’t have dysphoria, you aren’t trans. This person is saying if you behave a certain way, you must have dysphoria and are trans. It’s so out of left field it’s hard to comprehend.

            No wait, they’re saying the absence of dysphoria while cross dressing proves transness, so not even transmedicalism? Fuck I dunno.

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              It’s certainly bizarre. I think it’s transmedicalism, but it could be any number of bizarre ERF ideologies. They crop up like weeds. I’ve already blocked them and reported the post though, so hopefully it gets handled soon.

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            I don’t think you know what a transmedicalist is do you you dumb fuck. A transmedicalist is someone who believes you need dysphoria or surgery to be trans, what I am saying is far from that, people can be trans because of gender euphoria, never did I say they NEED dysphoria to be trans.