• UraniumBlazer@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    I can never understand how a grown ass adult (heck, two grown ass adults) can fight in front of a child… I rlly hope we become better parents when the time comes…

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      1 year ago

      It’s impossible to never fight in front of a kid you’re raising yourselves. If you live in the city during a pandemic, there might be literally nowhere else to go. I think the key is to fight fair; don’t forget that you love the people hearing your words.

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    1 year ago

    Just keep telling yourself, “two Christmases and two birthdays” until greed washes away the pain.

    Then try to be less of an asshole to your kids.

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      Except when neither of the divorced parents has any money, and you get zero birthdays and zero Xmas, but a whole lot of yelling from both sides about how lucky you are and how “I don’t need to get you anything, that bitch/asshole of a mother/father will get something for you.”

      It’s what my wife went through. But she is doing a great job as a mom and a wife because she made up her mind to be different than her parents. She also went from a size 20 to a size 8 over the past several years of constant effort but that’s another story.

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      Except if your parents never end up divorcing and you just having to live with their bickering and one parent undermining the other with gaslighting. Fun times…

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        1 year ago

        “Stay together for the kids, we can make them as miserable as we are together!”