But if you don’t buy her a real blood diamond how will she know that you love her enough to support slave labor?
I have prime.
If your significant other would be upset with a brass ring for an engagement ring, I don’t pity the misery that will be both of your lives.
I like brass for jewelry, but it gets green and grimey.
Depends if it turned her finger green or not.
Yeah brass wouldn’t work as brass polishing sucks. I’ve had to spend hours every year polishing the brass pots at my grandparents place. Never again.
What happens if the pots were unpolished? Does it effect aesthetics or function?
Yeah it’s (as far as I know) just aesthetic since the pots were decorative from the 1800s. I don’t think anyone cares about the aesthetics of like brass pipe fittings but for something decorative (like the pots and a wedding ring) the aesthetics matter.
A nice patina.
Blood diamonds “the suffering makes them special!”
“It builds character”
Look up moissanite. It’s literally the cheaper, superior diamond. The fact that it exists just goes to show how inflated the diamond market is
Saw a story about a wedding ring where instead of a diamond the ring was jeweled with the couple’s birth stones fit together into the shape of a heart, which honestly I think is WAY better and probably WAY cheaper too.
As long as one the birth months isn’t April.
What are birth stones?
Birthstones are like the zodiac signs of geology. Each month gets assigned a gemstone.
One of which is diamond, annoyingly enough.
There’s some religious history to them, but in general these days people are talking about the list of stones that American jewelers came up with in the early 20th century to try to sell more shit.
Moissanite is chemically different to diamond (SiC vs C), has a different crystal structure, and is less hard. You can also get actual lab-grown diamond, but they are quite expensive. But you probabaly won’t be able to tell the difference anyway.
But also, who cares that it’s less hard? I’m not using it for a drill bit, it’s a cosmetic piece. Literally it’s only function is visual. And moissanite is superior. All the visual markers that are used for beauty in a diamond it surpasses. And some quick googling I did to confirm that also showed me that diamond is only barely harder (“With a hardness of 9.25, moissanite is the second-hardest material used a gemstone.” a diamond is a 10.) and it turns out, less likely to break in some cases. “Moissanite doesn’t have a cleavage plane, while diamond does. (This is an internal plane along which a diamond crystal can easily split)” So if you hit a diamond in the wrong spot, it can still crack. Moissanite does not have a weak spot.
It’s very important to me that my gemstone only has carbon. If it has silicon I’m going to get very upset. Silicon interferes with your inner flow and can have harmful ions.
- my crystal wearing, hippy Grandma.
Usually you can tell the difference. Lab grown diamond is pure while rock grown diamond is imperfect.
But you have to look at it under a magnifying glass to tell, and know what you’re looking for.
It’s like 93% as hard but has better better optical properties which is what matters.
A strategy that has been working well for me is “Never buy jewelry of any kind ever because it’s completely pointless.”
Everything can be pointless when it comes down to it. I never ever wore jewelry but when I got married we got really nice matching plain bands and now I never take it off and quite like how it looks, it’s not pointless to me.
There will be no rings for me. I run too many power tools for that.
Don’t hang around people who demand you consume in order to get their approval. They are empty people who will not support you.
Nerevar, you foolish mortal! I have heard your lamentations about the cost of diamonds and how they are too expensive for how common they are. I agree, and I know who to blame. The Bear Company, which holds a monopoly on the diamond industry, is rigging the supply to keep prices high. They use propaganda to create a demand that is disproportionate to the real value of diamonds. What fools they are to think that they can hide such deception from me. I, Lord Dagoth, master of these lands, see through their shallow deceit and call for justice. Now please leave. I have to write upset words on this piece of parchment to show the world how angry i am. Nerevar, do you have a stick with you? Maybe also a stapler? Nerevar please go to the next trader and aquire a new Edding for me. I have let the cap open for too long and now my Edding has dried out.
Is this how you honor the Sixth House and the tribe unmourned?
But it’s the dried up blood from the child slaves that dug them that make diamonds so pretty!
My nightmare of a previous boss called my moissanite engagement ring “cheap” and “trashy,” and treated us to a 30-minute speech about how if it’s not “real” diamond, it doesn’t count.
I hope sucking down those Marlboro blacks takes care of that problem of a woman sooner, rather than later, and in the meantime the gorgeous rainbow sparkle of my pretty ring is made all the more beautiful for the complete lack of child slavery that went into making it!
… I also just realized that horrible harridan didn’t have an engagement ring, or even a boyfriend, and now some things make sense.
Average employer. I bet they only see diamonds as legitimate because of the slave labour put into them.
Moissanite is a perfect replacement of a diamond. Definitely agree that it looks great, better off putting the money towards something that will actually enhance your life.
It’s got a higher refractory index than diamonds.
I would have just sat there quietly and when she finished answered her with “well, that’s your opinion”
I don’t care if I depend on my job and my boss is a POS, my self worth is more valuable than any job.
I usually take a month off of work in the fall each year. One of my bucket list items is taking that time off to find a job with the worst bosses and seeing how far I can go while giving no fucks.
This sounds really fun
We all have these people in our jobs, don’t we? I‘m practicing to engage them with a therapist rn. Have been through abuse when I was young and they love to dump on me. My new goal is to pin a notice on my wall that I get for telling the next bully where to stick it (in public). Lets see how that goes.
“I consider this harassment inappropriate for a workplace. I’d rather not get HR involved.”
Key words from the employee manual or even better, HR training. No emotion, just stating facts. Don’t trust HR, but management knows that more than anyone. They use it as a bludgeon against employees all the time, they know it could be turned against them just as easily.
Good advice! Thank you :)
has anyone else been getting tons of ads (on streaming services mostly) literally about this? i keep getting these ads about how you should only purchase natural diamonds because only they matter or something and put some pretty woman in the ad to convince you. it’s pretty disgusting to make a commercial promoting diamonds stolen from the global south and brushing off synthetic diamonds even if they are literally the exact same rock.
It’s not true love if no one dies in the mines.
Ahh a true romantic I see.
You spelled Diamond Mafia wrong.
If a woman won’t marry you without a diamond ring, she’s not worth your time. Get her zero jewelry and if she stays with you, she’s a keeper.
All right she left and the kids are scared what’s my next move
Find a better woman who doesn’t want jewlery.
Knight in D2
I bought my wife a 'fake ’ diamond ring for the engagement ring.
She couldn’t tell her snooty friends that though, so she went and bought herself a very expensive ring with real diamonds.
She had the ring I bought her melted into my wedding band. I hate jewellery though so had no intention of wearing it. I agreed to wear it for a week after we got married. I’ve never worn it again. I haven’t even seen it since that first week. Over a decade. I wonder if it’s just lost, or she has it somewhere still.
I don’t care enough to ask.
Sounds dysfunctional, but then you said a decade has passed, so maybe not.
it’s hard to know the extent to which the comment represents the marriage. otoh, if one were to read their comment and leave thinking “sounds like a normal, healthy marriage to me”, that imo would be a premium red flag on the reader.
Opals are the superior stone and they actually look awsome. Transparent glass like stones are so boring. They are also much cheaper and not harvested with child labor.
Moissanite
Dont opals lose their shine or something over time due to being hydrophilic?
Hematite. The most metal gemstone.
My wife’s is made of a purple sapphire as the main stone with a small diamond on each side. She loves the purple. The diamonds I didn’t pay for, they were her grandmother’s that I got from her sister.
Jade gang
Opals are soft as hell. Not really a diamond replacement.
Why does harness matter? You are supposed to wear them, not cut or drill with them.
Hardness absolutely matters in rings. Not as much in pendants or earrings, but people don’t realize how rough they are with their hands. Most people do not take their rings off to wash their hands, or do their laundry, or, or, or. So many things have unexpected abrasives that may just feel a little rough on your skin, but can significantly damage a soft stone like opal. In a rush and accidentally bang your hand against the door frame? Chipped opal. Back of your hand itches, so you rub it against your jeans briefly? Scratched opal. They’re very fragile stones.
An engagement ring is worn on your hand pretty much all the time. Opals are easily damaged, diamonds are exceptionally durable.
I’m not talking about replacing your diamond drill bit with opal. I mean jewellery
It’s more dropping or getting scratched, but I’ll admit I’ve never seen opal break.
Rings, like engagement/wedding rings, can take quite a beating. You need a hard stone or it won’t really last very long.
I have a lab Ruby in my engagement ring and then lab diamonds around it. The lab Ruby is a good alternative because it’s a hard stone! Sapphires and alexandrite are also just as hard and could be good stones in a ring you’d wear everyday.
My engagement ring used sapphire. Beautiful stone.
This is what we did. I got my wife a nice ice blue sapphire center stone instead of a diamond. It was less expensive, durable and more unique.
DeBeers have massive investments in the synthetic diamond industry. They are actually world leaders and have known that it’s possible to produce higher quality diamonds at a much lower cost. They make a killing selling synthetic diamonds to industry.
No, no, they are just earning less.
My gf asked me to not give her a ring when I’ll propose, but a zweihander instead :D
Player 2 has entered the game! Congrats to both of you
My partner and I just bought our own rings since we both have pretty particular tastes haha
I’ve never even thought of that! How cute!
She sounds like a keeper!
You should put a ring on that. Oh wait.
A diamond sword is going to cost a hell of a lot more.
Just craft one yourself, it’s not that hard. Chop a few trees for the wood, craft the workbench, dig down a bit for the diamonds and there you go!
