• remotelove@lemmy.ca
    2·
    11 months ago

    Sometimes the best option is to delete all the comments that triggered this and wait it out. (It doesn’t matter if you were right or wrong, btw. You just want to slow this down, correct?) Redditors have really short attention spans so just create another account and wait a while. (Maybe a week or two)

    Some users may have started following your account and will see when you post again. Just ignore them.

    Reporting to the admins is pointless. I seriously doubt any mod on Reddit gives a fuck now.

    Or, just ditch Reddit completely. Best choice I ever made, actually.

      • remotelove@lemmy.ca
        2·
        11 months ago

        Ok. You tried to take accountability for whatever it was. Good. I have fucked up plenty of times in my life. I have been fired a couple of times, lost all of my friends, etc. In my case, I was just a drunk asshole. That life is dead and I moved on.

        Allow me to be a little stern and extremely serious for a second.

        Now, you need to let whatever it was that happened fade into the past. Drop any and all online identities that you have. Nuke any post that you ever made. Save any media that you want to keep and that’ll be that.

        While you still have to live with stuff offline, that is fine. It’ll fade eventually as well.

        I personally don’t know the details of your life and I personally don’t want to know. You can move on, but you really need to commit to it when you do. When you finish school, that will help as you can physically move.

        Look, if you fucked up really bad or are actually the victim doesn’t matter in this case. You do have the capability to hit the reset button and stop the metaphorical bleeding now.

        Most of all, seek a therapist and/or an attorney if things are that serious. This shit will take a mental toll and you likely need assistance that you can’t get here on Lemmy.

        Disappear first, get assistance then start building a new life. Most of all, whatever happened before, don’t let it happen again.

        Delete this Lemmy account. You have now linked your old user accounts to this one. It’s only a matter of time before these comments are indexed by a search engine. Don’t link anything to your old online personas.

          • remotelove@lemmy.ca
            1·
            11 months ago

            Yes? You described a problem that seems simple on the surface. However…

            Very quickly, you described a problem that actually has many moving parts and may exist in your offline life as well. There are several social media sites involved. To top it off, you described the catalyst as being controversial from the start. Since you were in DeviantArt, it was likely your intention to market your skills and get a ton of exposure. More exposure means a unique set of online problems.

            You have two options that I can think of: You can ignore the trolls following you around. Continue with your life as-is. or: Erase or archive the online persona that you have built and start over. Let any drama fade with time.

              • remotelove@lemmy.ca
                2·
                11 months ago

                All good. Tangents are a thing.

                Trying to look at your problem and narrow it down to the actual core issues was a little challenging, but that is OK! There might be a third option. I dunno. Until you think of one, stop posting and take some time away from being online.

                Online issues are an interesting problem, for sure.

      • crapwittyname@lemm.ee
        2·
        11 months ago

        Save the media. Don’t base your identity on a username. Realise that you’ve salted the earth and delete the now-toxic accounts. That’s kind of the whole point of anon forums, you don’t have to drag a reputation around with you.
        There’s a different perspective here, which I think you might be missing: the stakes you’re talking about are so low as to be negligible, from an outside perspective. You don’t have to be as worried about this issue as you are. I think the advice you’ve gotten on this thread so far is sound. Take some time, take some distance. Do something else for a while and shift your focus. You’ll start to see things differently. Get distracted. Part of being independent is doing the shit our parents used to do for us, and one of those is distracting yourself from unnecessary bullshit. I’m an extremely obsessive person myself, and learning when and how to let shit go is as liberating as it is seemingly impossible. I honestly can’t recommend it enough.
        All this is said with love, and I hope you find your way, internet stranger.

          • HandBash@lemmy.world
            1·
            11 months ago

            From what I observe and gather, it is that reddit usage is working as they intend it. I.e. it is not designed to be effective because it does not add value to their IPO goals. It may not be the answer to your question, but more so an explanation of why your question does not have a good answer. You can try barking up more trees because legitimately it seems like your case is an abuse of their rules or terms but ultimately there is not much recourse you can do to force their hand to follow their own policies.

  • RightHandOfIkaros@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    11 months ago

    Just stop using Reddit. Problem solved.

    If you feel like your life or the lives of others are in danger, call your local law enforcement and report it to them. Not on their emergency line, on their regular line.