Right now, mine is buying the fancy expensive dark chocolate 🍫
What is your fancy dark chocolate?
Just Ghirardelli haha
Hey for a store bought brand Ghirardelli is pretty good, its my go-to sweet when I’m on keto.
Honestly it’s a lot better than 70% of the ‘artisanal’ supremely overpriced coarse ground hippy dippy small batch chocolates that are apparently all the rage with foodies.
I buy a can of rice pudding, eat it out of the tin
Simple pleasures
mood
And lick it clean.
Going to Lidl to see what new continental sweet foods they’ve got that day on the middle aisle.
Every now and then our Lidl (in Germany) has a French Week. The Muffins they sell are amazing. They are filled to the brim with chocolate cream and the amount of sugar in these things will hit your brain like a truck.
Incredibly unhealthy. But I don’t care. They are like sweet crack.
Small charcuterie board. Nothing fancy: a salame, two cheeses, olives. Then I open some wine or beer (depending on climate - I’m fine drinking sangria now in the summer but I’d rather not do it with this).
That’s specially fun when my sister is visiting, since my sis and my BIL also love this stuff.
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The coconut waters that have the additional pineapple flavor.
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As a mod, I must say… bro nooooooo :(
I feel defeated when good people here say they feel like this. There’s so much I’d offer to fix this feeling people have. I really wish you the best if not actively able to help in some way.
Uh, yeah thanks. C’est la vie.
Therapy can help. I also had suicidal thought and after a year and change of weekly sessions life is a lot more enjoyable. Won’t pretend to know the mental health system in your area, but it’s something worth pursing. You deserve happiness just as much as anyone else.
Thanks. It’s a nice thought but I honestly don’t deserve happiness. I thought I was ok for a day or so, but actually not.
Unless you’re stomping on kittens, you deserve happiness.
You literally do. A relationship something from 3 decades ago is not a life sentance to pain. Flogging yourself about whatever happened helps no one, especially not her.
I care for you. I know how hard it is to get started. But I feel you wouldn’t have left a comment like that unless you needed someone to tell you it’s okay to be better. It’s okay to work on it. You deserve better then to lock yourself in a prison of misery.
I’d agree but it was my fault. I broke up with her in an impulsive ADHD spaz. And then I didn’t try hard enough to get her back. I felt maybe if I respected her boundaries she’d allow me back in her life but it never happened. I should’ve tried harder to communicate.
So nope! It’s all self-hatred from here on down. Plus the turtles.
Oh sweetie, we all do silly things in our youth we regret. Thats part of life and growing older. This is absoutly nothing to ruminate over. I really think you can improve your day to day by working on your mental health. Self-hatred is easy, but its miserable and serves no one.
You and your turtles deserve better!
Very kind of you but the fact remains for me that the shadow of this relationship follows me everywhere and I can’t let it go or forgive myself for destroying it. No counselling will help. It is what it is.
I understand that our lives are brief and pointless. The only magic is what we create in our own heads, sometimes dangerously. I don’t claim to be special or demand the universe unwind back 30 years to fix it. She’s moved on. I haven’t. It’s pathetic on my part, but there it is. TBH I’d rather we had kept going and destroyed each other, or she cheated on me or pretty much anything else except what actually happened.
Bah.
Getting my nails done!
I love painting my nails too, but I can never keep it looking nice for more than 3 days 😔 any tips?
Honestly my nails are so thin and brittle they break if I look at them too hard and painting them myself never stays on for more than a day. If you have strong nails get a gel manicure and if your nails are like mine I get gel with acrylic nails and fill them in every 3 weeks.
Commissioning artwork.
When I have enough saved up, I go to a friend of mine that’s an artist and make a request, especially if I’ve made a new character recently. It feels like I get to have my imagination put into visible, concrete form.
Patron of the arts 🫡
Turning my phone off and playing computer games all night.
Same but with books for me
Spending time here.
I feel ya, I enjoy talking to cool folks online. What are your favorite spots on Lemmy for good conversation?
This community and the two ask lemmy subsections. For everything else, it depends on the circumstances.
Yeah actually this is it for me
Epsom salt bath with bath oils and some of that jazz lettuce while watching Star Trek
Fancy baths are awesome
Many many packs of nori and a few beers.
Crunching away like a goofball
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Crunchy foods are fun
A hot bath. Or if I need extra, a night at the local Kabuki-style bath house.
I love taking baths when I’m sore! Too lazy to take them otherwise. Do you have any special bath time rituals or anything you do to make it more fun?
It’s easier some times than others. If I’m engrossed in a book it makes a great pairing.
My partner also takes baths for relaxing a lot and he will put a computer on a chair and watch TV while soaking.
Fruits
Oh man I am treating myself with white nectarines rn!
Found a neat trick, the house is freezing so I didn’t want to bite into a cold nectarine so I threw it in the oven at the lowest setting for like 10 mins and it came out SO JUICY AND SWEET!
Like roast apples I guess.
Fruit rules!
Fruits!
Getting a monthly massage
I’ve never had one, but I’ve been considering getting a sports massage. Do you have a specific type of massage that you like? What do you look for in a masseur/clinic?
You’ll have to try different things to find what you like! I get a lot of deep tissue and therapeutic work done.
I also am a massage therapist, so I’d be happy to answer any questions!Thanks, I will look those up!
Hmm, I guess my main question is what I should know before booking a massage and what red flags to look out for? I also recall reading somewhere that you have to get massages regularly to get the full benefit of them, like weekly/monthly, is that true?
