Having trouble phrasing this, so in case it’s not clear I’m not looking for casual misogyny thanks

Having a debate with a friend about whether men shopping with women can be fun and I’m wondering how coloured my view of this is by me and my ex.

I’d love to hear what makes a great shopping experience for you with your friends or significant others!

  • PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.comEnglish
    2·
    10 months ago

    I go shopping with my wife sometimes and do standard husband things:

    • Hold up a bathing suit and ask, “Does this make my butt look big?”
    • Feel up women’s pajamas with suggestive looks…
    • Read the ridiculous phrases on their clothes and just riff on 'em
    • Act like a child and try to hide behind some thin dress like she can’t see me, then pop out and accuse her getting scared
    • Suggest ridiculous accessories and insist she’d like good in them (she would…but it’s not her style)
    • In sum, pretty much everything except help her shop
  • DaCookeyMonsta@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1·
    10 months ago

    Depends, am I in a women’s only clothing store holding their bags while I’m left alone and trying not to make eye contact with strangers? And then when I want to check out a store that only has things I like I’m told they don’t want to go?

    Or are we shopping in a store or place where there are things for both of us and we can talk to each other about what we’re doing?

  • elbucho@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    10 months ago

    I think it’s not so much about the genders of the shoppers, but rather their approach to shopping that is most telling. I take after my mother: I’m a Combat Shopper. When I enter a store, I have a specific plan of action, and my goal is to execute it as swiftly and efficiently as possible and get out. My father, on the other hand, was very much a lookie-loo shopper. He would spend hours at the store slowly walking up and down every aisle trying to think if anybody he knew would want whatever bit of tat was on the shelves in front of him. Drove me fucking nuts to shop with him.

    I think that combat shoppers can shop with other combat shoppers, and lookie-loo shoppers with others of their ilk, but pairing one with the other is a recipe for hurt feelings.

    • Irinir@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      10 months ago

      This is my experience also. Me and the wife are both combat shoppers. We plan, we go in, cart blazing, we execute the plan, we get out and away. If either of us was the other kind of shopper, it wouldn’t work really.

    • slowwooderrunsdeep@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      10 months ago

      I take after my mother: I’m a Combat Shopper.

      My father, on the other hand, was very much a lookie-loo shopper.

      There’s always two types of people, and they usually marry each other.

    • weeeeum@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      10 months ago

      What mode I’m in depends why I’m at the store. Am I getting specific items and GTFO or am I looking for a solution for a problem. I cook a lot so I know what I want and when I go to the grocery store, it’s fast. If I’m looking for a solution, potentially to fix or remodel something I’ll probably peruse through home Depot for some time.

    • Katrisia@lemm.eeEnglish
      2·
      10 months ago

      Totally! You explained it really well.

      My partner and I are the lookie-loo shoppers. We often cover stores aisle by aisle. It’s entertaining for us for different reasons. We like to see what people are buying, especially things like books, clothes, etc. We like to talk about the products and the things that follow; for example, we start by noticing the variety of flavors in pets food and end up talking about animals, foods, etc. We like to learn about new products, as we are often out of the loop and it’s nice to find new gadgets or kitchen accessories this way. We try new things, like “try me” lotions or whatever. Overall, it is a fun experience.

  • BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.worldEnglish
    0·
    10 months ago

    My husband takes me clothes shopping and picks out and makes me buy things I wouldn’t normally because he says I should wear colours. I have many pairs of pink pants as a result.

  • twoshoes@lemmy.worldEnglish
    0·
    10 months ago

    My GF and I are generally not that into shopping, but if we do I enjoy it. I like to suggest clothes for her, though she usually goes for safer options than what I suggest. We are somewhat similar types, so it’s mostly what I would wear if I was a woman.