Big nerd. Big fan of cool open source stuff. Generally queer. (He/him)
I think thats an awesome idea but make sure that you are careful to facilitate a healthy space- its very easy for spaces dedicated to really awful parts of the human experience to become so overwhelming in their negativity that they’re kind of a toxic cesspool making it harder for people to make their peace with things and cope effectively, rather than easier
I mean liberal and conservative aren’t the same level of crappy in my eyes, but it is accurate to say corporate interests fund both of them. I think its reasonable to question how beholden both of them are to private interests
I think I’m gonna be playing in a tournament for splatoon 3 soon ☺️ never played with other folks as like a team, I’m excited to try it out and see how we do
Every time I’m struggling to deal with greif, or someone in my life is, I always come back to this post from many years ago on reddit by a user called gsnow (it was in reply to a redditors friend dying, they were asking how they could cope with the pain of that loss):
Alright, here goes. I’m old. What that means is that I’ve survived (so far) and a lot of people I’ve known and loved did not. I’ve lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can’t imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here’s my two cents.
I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don’t want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don’t want it to “not matter”. I don’t want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can’t see.
As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.
In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.
Somewhere down the line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O’Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out.
Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don’t really want them to. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will come. And you’ll survive them too. If you’re lucky, you’ll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.
(Back to being written by me) aside from making sure you’re using healthy methods to cope (DBT has some really helpful coping skills in its “distress tollerance” section that I’ve used more times than I can count. DBT is a particular school of psychotherapy, like CBT), find yourself a therapist so you have some support with the process. I’m sending love from my corner of the world
Probably not. Could kinda depend on what kind of pot, and how hot you crank the burner. And also what kind of “burner” it is. But probably not. Electric coil and induction I would imagine are more likely to warp a pan, probably moreso induction than electric coil.
And single ply stainless and carbon steel seem like they’d be more prone to warping. But pots don’t really warp much, unlike pans which sometimes do. Cast iron definitely won’t warp, and a gas stove is unlikely to warp anything because the radiant nature of the heat it produces is less prone to creating hotspots
If a pot/pan is gonna warp, usually unless you MASSIVELY overheated it, it will return to shape after it cools down: so pay attention to the pot if its somewhat cheaply made and if you notice its not sitting flat while cooking, maybe be mindful not to crank the heat super duper hot with that pot
Ultimately, its extremely unlikely you have anything to worry about, and any potential issues can be managed by paying a little attention
Hope this helps :)
Christ, thats fucking horrible
I agree with the other commenter, but I’m sure if helps I’d your pot has a laminated construction, or is made out of something very conductive like aluminum. You’re less likely to have a problem with a hot spot in a fully clad pan where there’s a layer of aluminum sandwiched between layers of steel (which helps conduct the heat more evenly), or with nonstick aluminum pan, than with single ply stainless (a single thinner layer the pot has been formed out of, usually very cheap. They’re not super common) or like enameled cast iron, which will be more prone to the middle being hotter with the outer edges
But with a pot, stirring is a pretty straightforward way to minimize one spot in the middle getting a bit hotter than the outside edges. Its worth paying attention to how it cooks and you’ll find there may be better ways to go about making your food (like being mindful to stir more) depending on how different cookware performs for you :)
Its going okay, today I got to a higher competitive rank than I’ve ever reached before in a competitive game I like (splatoon 3) which I’m really proud of. And tomorrow I wake up early for two interviews. I dont actually want either job, but I’m practicing to work through social anxiety. I’m kinda burnt out though, so I’m looking forward to working through all the stuff thats currently on my plate so I can rest again 😅
If you’re really hurt by something the appropriate thing to do is to be vulnerable and sincerely express to your partner that their behavior hurt your feelings.
I think its very plausible that your partner didn’t mean anything (unless you have some other reason to think they’re unhappy, it was probably just an attempt at humor), but you’re allowed to be hurt by something even if it wasn’t intended to be hurtful. I’d reccomend reflecting on why it was hurtful to you (it seems like this is a big deal to you and its worth examining why that is under the surface), practicing some coping (go do something nice or practice self care) and have an honest conversation with your partner after you’ve examined whether this is caused by something you’re dealing with or an insecurity, and put some energy into coping with the emotions (understanding yourself and taking care of yourself and your emotions are important to ensure its a helpful conversation. Deal with the emotions first, then talk)
Man, y’all know how to party- can’t wait to up the ante at Easter celebrations!