My gender is liminal, I’m just passing through. she/ae/aer

Former Hare Krishna, Trekkie, digital minimalist, Vim evangelist, Chaos Buddhist, statistician. Not necessarily in that order.

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  • Most trans people never have any surgeries. I transitioned 16 years ago and I’ve never had any surgeries, nor do I have plans for any.

    That being said, it is not comfortable for anyone involved for me to walk into a men’s room. I don’t look like I belong in a men’s room.

    I say this with respect, because you seem well-meaning, just lacking some understanding. Here’s a counterexample: if I point-blank asked you to describe your genitals, you’d be uncomfortable, perhaps you’d even feel violated, and rightly so.

    This is what bathroom laws are asking trans people to do, and it’s not okay. It’s an invasion of our privacy. I belong in the women’s bathroom, and it has nothing to do with my genitals. My genital situation is nobody’s business.

    Moreover, anyone who enters a public restroom with the intent of hurting or violating anyone inside should be punished severely. That also has nothing to do with anyone’s genitals. Single sex spaces, while well-meaning, do not protect anyone. The fact that a person could theoretically “claim to be trans” in order to follow someone into a restroom to attack them is immaterial; such a person could enter that restroom to attack someone even if single-sex spaces were enforced. The assault is the problem, not the sexes of the people involved.

    Trans people are not predators; we just have to pee.