There is a difference between telling someone to kill themselves and despairing about… Why do I have to explain this, even? It is not okay to say stuff like that. That reason should suffice. It’s called decency. You just don’t go around and tell people to end their lifes, do you?
That sounds wonderful. I often fantasize about living on a mountain side in a cottage with a porch where I sit with my wife on a crisp morning, just enjoying the sun rise, a coffee and the comfort of being in the moment with my closet ally on earth.
I wish I had the money to do that someday.
I congratulate you and your wife to make a dream come true. I believe, if you long so much and can make it happen, it will be worth it and it is something to work for.