It reminds me of this tradition. Especially this quote from a modern incident “Successfully counting coup disgraces your opponent. It’s a way of publicly shaming them. We believe that if you are shamed, you must admit defeat.” It makes me wonder how much of the motivation for the incidents is internal consumption. Acting aggresively, but in a carefully crafted way to avoid an escalated response. The message sent internally that the other side restrains themselaee not out of reason, but fear.

Reminds me of this but with grain. Wonder who the guy on the riright is in this situation.

Apologies for the late reply, wefwef ate my reply (but is getting better by the day, I think there were two or three updates just yesterday).

You are exactly spot on. I’ve seen suggestions put forward varying from implementing a karma system, to having admins taking a heavy handed and monolithic approach to community issues, all the way to default non-federation with new instances. All of which, after taking a look around, seem quite “un-Lemmy”. My suggestion is one of perspective and tone. Lemmy has wonderfully rough edges, but I like to think about it like crashing on a friend’s couch vs. staying at a hotel. A more homely experience perhaps, but much more personable.

Let’s get settled in, by all means, but let’s also take a look around and recognize that the system Lemmy and the larger Fediverse have built allowed it to be built not by some multi-billion dollar company or VC funded startup, but by just some regular folks. If that system got us all this far together, there might be something to trust there.

I’ll give it a shot!

If we’re new users, where we are at now (Lemmy) is different than the sites we used to frequent in subtle but important ways.

I believe those differences are an important reason why Lemmy has cultivated such a vibrant and positive community up to this point.

I believe it is important that new users unfamiliar with the space allow Lemmy patience as issues caused by the recent influx are dealt with in a uniquely “Lemmy” way.

I believe it is this uniquely “Lemmy” way of solving problems that sets it apart from the “corporate” alternative.