• Today@lemmy.world
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    22 days ago

    I mentioned that i had concerns about myself when i was about 12. It wasn’t dismissed, but it was clear that attempting to address it at that time would be too difficult. I keep it put away as much as i can, only mentioning the intrusive thoughts when i can play it as a joke - not sure if that feels better or worse. After 40 years, I’m finally beginning to recognize the tendency towards self sabotage but still struggle with not giving in to it.

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        20 days ago

        Never went to the doc for it. It’s just the stuff that rolls around in my head.

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            16 days ago

            The only time I’ve ever really felt suicidal was when I was on antidepressants. Then it was more just feeling insignificant, like one of a bajillion people on the Earth and if I die that’s just part of the natural turnover. I’m impulsive and quick to anger, so I know that I can’t own a gun. I have a lot of thoughts of destruction that i try to keep in check - holding a stack of plates at a friend’s house and want to drop them, what if I put my wedding ring in the garbage disposal, If there’s a car stopped on a bridge and I hit it will it go over, I’m afraid of heights because I want to push. When I was a kid, the thing I first noticed was sometimes wishing for bad things to happen- and that’s what I now think of as self-sabotage. Is it worse to have a car accident or go to work? If I get a letter from the IRS, am I more excited if it’s a check or a bill? Either way, if I throw it away, will they send another?

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        16 days ago

        In my case it is depression. There is a bit a of anxiety and ADHD mixed in to keep it fun. Self-medicating with drugs/alcohol makes it difficult to go too long without causing life problems.

        Although I’m currently down, I’m not having thoughts of suicide, and have not for about 4 months.

        I have a huge fear of sharing those thoughts because I know I will likely get 5150 again. Hospitalization costs $$$$.