You can survive him. Just don’t think that him cosplaying as tough dad has any bearing on who you should choose to be or deserve to become. We all deserve supporting, emotionally mature parents. That you didn’t get one is not your fault.
Why would you be a coward for avoiding a conflict where if he was a normal person wouldn’t be any issue whatsoever? There is nothing to gain in that situation
Play the game along on a minimal emotional level, get out as soon as possible and let it be a lesson how to never turn out.
Coward? Not the right word. Survivor, would be the word I would choose. Are you old enough to get a job and ride a train alone? Can you get tf out of this? If not, keep surviving until you can get out, then run and never look back. Change your number, your usernames, everything else he can use to track your whereabouts. Block his number on the new phone, and just run. At that point, he died to you. Don’t even think about him. Don’t let him live rent free in your mind. Shove him out of your mind, and lead the good life you deserve. If you ever see him again in the future, pretend you don’t recognize him, pretend you’ve never seen him before, pretend he’s a complete stranger—he’s dead to you. This type of behavior he’s showing from the main screenshot and your other comments on here, leads to a manchild who never grew up, and this is not your responsibility to get him to grow up… that’s his responsibility, which he’s failing. Your responsibility is to survive, get tf out, then thrive. Good luck, son.
I want to stress this - you are not a coward. You have to do what is necessary to survive.
There’s good advice in this thread - do what you can to set up an exit strategy, and exit ASAP once you have arranged safeguards to support your survival. The earlier the better, but if it takes time to do successfully, take that time.
You are not weak. You are not worthless. You are not beholden to this man for your long-term survival, even if it’s necessary for the short-term. If you so choose, when you leave he will never see you again and die alone and forgotten. The only purpose his memory should serve in that case is as an example of what not to do, or how to live your life. Survive and seek out as much joy as this world makes available, so you can dance on his grave and empty your bladder on it before leaving it to decay.
I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this - but it is not permanent. Please remember this.
Yeah, poking the bear seems like a bad idea when the bear is in your house. I’m really sorry you’re living with this. If you feel comfortable sharing, how old are you? Do you have a plan to get away?
If it works, it’s a fine strategy for now. Just keep in mind that it’s just a strategy until you feel more comfortable and confident to set new boundaries that are good for you, too. I too suggest to stay away from him at some point. At a distance you are in a better position to reevaluate how you may or may not maintain a relationship with your dad. Stay strong, many people here understand and support you.
You did well. Now just ignore him if you can. I’d certainly never contact him again. My father died when I was 13, I prefer that, than dealing with this.
If this were posted in any other community I would think it were just some BDSM roleplay.
So, you should reply with “harder daddy”.
deleted by creator
No, you’re not a coward. You’re a survivor!
I hope you are able to move out soon.
This is no way to live.
You can survive him. Just don’t think that him cosplaying as tough dad has any bearing on who you should choose to be or deserve to become. We all deserve supporting, emotionally mature parents. That you didn’t get one is not your fault.
Why would you be a coward for avoiding a conflict where if he was a normal person wouldn’t be any issue whatsoever? There is nothing to gain in that situation
Play the game along on a minimal emotional level, get out as soon as possible and let it be a lesson how to never turn out.
I’m sorry. You don’t deserve that from your dad. Get out when you can and never look back.
Coward? Not the right word. Survivor, would be the word I would choose. Are you old enough to get a job and ride a train alone? Can you get tf out of this? If not, keep surviving until you can get out, then run and never look back. Change your number, your usernames, everything else he can use to track your whereabouts. Block his number on the new phone, and just run. At that point, he died to you. Don’t even think about him. Don’t let him live rent free in your mind. Shove him out of your mind, and lead the good life you deserve. If you ever see him again in the future, pretend you don’t recognize him, pretend you’ve never seen him before, pretend he’s a complete stranger—he’s dead to you. This type of behavior he’s showing from the main screenshot and your other comments on here, leads to a manchild who never grew up, and this is not your responsibility to get him to grow up… that’s his responsibility, which he’s failing. Your responsibility is to survive, get tf out, then thrive. Good luck, son.
I want to stress this - you are not a coward. You have to do what is necessary to survive.
There’s good advice in this thread - do what you can to set up an exit strategy, and exit ASAP once you have arranged safeguards to support your survival. The earlier the better, but if it takes time to do successfully, take that time.
You are not weak. You are not worthless. You are not beholden to this man for your long-term survival, even if it’s necessary for the short-term. If you so choose, when you leave he will never see you again and die alone and forgotten. The only purpose his memory should serve in that case is as an example of what not to do, or how to live your life. Survive and seek out as much joy as this world makes available, so you can dance on his grave and empty your bladder on it before leaving it to decay.
I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this - but it is not permanent. Please remember this.
Mildly infuriating gif. You can clearly see he is yelling “Aye, sir! Aye, sir!”
He should consider himself lucky you call him dad. I know some fathers who are simply referred to by their first name by their children.
That’s how you survive until you can escape. If you’re over 18 and just lack the funds to leave, try a go fund me. I’ve seen them work on this before.
Yeah, poking the bear seems like a bad idea when the bear is in your house. I’m really sorry you’re living with this. If you feel comfortable sharing, how old are you? Do you have a plan to get away?
If it works, it’s a fine strategy for now. Just keep in mind that it’s just a strategy until you feel more comfortable and confident to set new boundaries that are good for you, too. I too suggest to stay away from him at some point. At a distance you are in a better position to reevaluate how you may or may not maintain a relationship with your dad. Stay strong, many people here understand and support you.
You did well. Now just ignore him if you can. I’d certainly never contact him again. My father died when I was 13, I prefer that, than dealing with this.
That’s what I thought too. But OP’s comments unfortunately tell a different story
Jeeze, that’s what I thought it was.