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      Sorry hit post too early. Just keep your head down and build your network, that is your armor. Do not let him send you to some sort of “troubled teen” program whatever you do.

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      I’d still document it. When you move out and he asks if you’re coming by for Christmas or whatever just send him a video of him beating you and say “what do you think”.

      Post them on Facebook and tag him. Let the world and all his close friends know how he acts.

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        Do not do the last part. He’s a minor living in fear. Publicly shaming him like that will will almost certainly create an even worse situation if the asshole is prone to physical violence. The key here is for the kid to survive in the short term and escape once they either can get the courts to grant them emancipation or they turn 18. Then after that, therapy so they can learn to move on and thrive.

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          Sorry, let me clarify because you being up a good point about his living situation. I meant that he should expose him AFTER he is free and away from them. I %100 agree its not worth it right now.

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        See the thing is, children are property and hitting children is totally fine because the law hasn’t recognuzed them as people yet. Wives are barely considered people and hitting them only became illegal a few decades ago.

        \s for me, literally accurate for a huge portion of US culture.

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      Well that is beyond fucked up. here in germany you go to jail right away if you slap your child. Using the belt would be considered aggravated assault here and he would be gone for the next 2 years at least. It is completely insane that something like this could be legal.

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          I understand it. When I was quite young, my father was also convinced that beating was an educational method. It took him almost 30 years to apologize for it. In situations like this I tend to say “gtfo as fast as you can”, but of course that’s not always an option.

          Stay strong, you still have your whole life ahead of you and it will get better.

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      Ummm, to an extent.

      https://texaslawhelp.org/article/corporal-punishment

      If a child is showing signs of lasting marks, bruises, burns, broken bones, or other physical injuries, this is likely abusive.

      If it’s leaving lasting bruises, even in Texas that may be where they draw the line? If it happens incessantly, along with verbal abuse, you may be able to get some help.

      That being said, getting tossed into the foster care system isn’t often an improvement. My suggestion, besides maybe discretely seeking resources, is to focus on near term goals of becoming self sufficient and getting the hell out of there as fast as you can. Pieces of shit like this guy don’t deserve children.

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      As an European, I’m so sorry for you. I hope it gets better. I can’t imagine living in such a crazy country.