The greatest song about accepting your struggles as key to making you who you are, while also refusing to pass that generational trauma on to your own children, is Johnny Cash / Shel Silverstein’s “A Boy Named Sue”
*Bonus points for implicitly understanding the trauma of being misgendered.
You should check out the song “Patches” If that’s what you’re interested in.
Just reading the name Patches brings a hit of emotions. Great song
Patches, I’m depending on ya son…
That song hits hard in a town that was farm heavy
Patches by Dickie Lee or Patches by Clarence Carter?
… Or Patches the Clown by Deadbolt?
(All great songs.)