One of the admins at lemmy.blahaj.zone asked us to purge a community and all of its users because they thought it was full of child sexual abuse material, aka CSAM, fka kiddy porn. We assured them that we had checked this comm thoroughly and we were satisfied that all of the models on it were of age. The admin then demanded we purge the comm because they mistook it for CSAM, and claimed that the entire point of the community was to make people think it was CSAM. We vehemently disagreed that that was in fact the point of the community, but they decided to defederate from us anyway. That is of course their choice, but we will not purge our communities or users because someone else makes a mistake of fact, and then lays the responsibility for their mistake at our feet. If someone made a community intended to fool people into thinking it was kiddy porn, that would be a real problem. If someone of age goes online and pretends – not roleplays, but pretends with intent to deceive – to be a child and makes porn, that is a real problem. Nobody here is doing that. One of the reasons we run our instance the way that we do is that we want it to be inclusive. We don’t body shame, and we believe that all adults have a right to sexual expression. That means no adult on our instance is too thin, fat, bald, masculine, old, young, cis, gay, etc., to be sexy, and that includes adults that look younger than some people think they should. Everyone has a right to lust and to be lusted after. There’s no way to draw a line that says “you can’t like adult people that look like X” without crossing a line that we will not cross.
  • fuwa@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    since right‐wingers has already been blaming the LGBT+ community for pedophilia, they didn’t want any more risk of the media start accusing the blahaj instance of endorsing pedophilia, so they had to act

    Innocent trans person: gets wrongly accused of pedophilia by disingenuous lying scumbag fascists as part of some stupid political culture war.

    Same trans person: wrongly accuses someone else of pedophilia to appease disingenuous lying scumbag fascists as part of some stupid political culture war.

    Trans rights are human rights. At the same time I think that every adult has the fundamental right to sexual self-expression, alone or among consenting adult partners. The definition and very nature of “kink” means that a person finds something erotic that other people find mundane, strange or even gross (like feet, bondage, roleplay, nylon, furry, piss play, adult diapers, etc). “Sex-positivity” means being tolerant with the fact that different people get turned on by different things, and that basically anything goes between consenting adults who are following whatever laws that happen to apply to them. Nobody has to like kink, but people ought to accept that kink is a valid form of consensual adult sexuality.

    At this point, the facts seem to suggest the the lemmynsfw community in question was made up of consenting adults. And so, taking the misdirected heat off of your community by wrongly directing it at someone else’s community is indefensible to me. Nobody is being protected when false accusations fly freely and people start shoving others under the bus for political convenience.

    I think the blahajzone made the wrong call here, and lemmynsfw deserve credit for sticking up for sex-positivity amongst consenting adults, especially under pressure.