So… let’s talk about my last post.

I got A LOT of comments telling me to gain weight and that I look unhealthy.

Any comments like that from not on will earn you a block. I understand you’re coming from a place of concern- but I am active on being healthy.

I don’t weigh myself, I eat when I’m hungry, I eat a lot of fresh food, I love cooking and baking, I love swimming, I love being out in the sunshine, I eat too much sugar.

Don’t make me feel weird about my weight. I deal with that enough in real life.

  • just_another_person@lemmy.worldEnglish
    7·
    1 year ago

    Geez. Really sorry that’s happened to you. Unless it’s coming from a gentle place of serious concern, people need to mind their manners and their own business. They especially don’t need to be posting public comments to you about it. L’fuq

    • unlikelyarachnid@agora.nop.chatEnglish
      9·
      1 year ago

      Honestly, like they said, even coming from a place of concern, it’s not ok.

      Nobody is about to get their first insight into having a mental health condition like an eating disorder from comments on porn that they’ve posted. It’s just not a reality. Anybody who gets those comments online has already heard it all before, and knows how people feel about it.

      I would say, if somebody is actively promoting an unhealthy lifestyle by glorifying bulimia or undereating, then it’s a good time to speak up so others aren’t influenced, and to make it clear that promoting those things can lead to serious mental health issues.

      Telling someone they should gain weight, lose weight, get a boob job, go to the gym, stop going to the gym - it’s all totally inappropriate, and potentially very damaging.

      • just_another_person@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        1 year ago

        Yeah, exactly. If it sounded like I was saying something different, my apologies. It just seems weird that so many people in 2023 still think it’s okay to anonymously just throw comments out like that. Surely you wouldn’t do it in person on the street to a complete stranger, so wtf would you do the same on the internet? The damage and outcome is essentially the same.

        • Sierra@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
          5·
          1 year ago

          It’d be 100% different if it was coming from a place of concern. I’m a small girl- I get it. I also naturally have a very small waist and wide hips which makes my hip bones look more prominent… I get it.

          I just don’t like being asked if I’m on drugs because I’m thin.