• brbposting@sh.itjust.works
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    11 months ago

    I appreciate your progressive attitudes, though I wonder whether you considered how your comment may be received by married Lemmings who’ve already made a different decision than you. Could they perceive an unjustified attack you didn’t intend?

    • davel [he/him]@lemmy.ml
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      11 months ago

      I don’t think I’m responsible for other adults’ reactions to my life choices or my lived experiences.

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        11 months ago

        You are correct!

        You are not directly responsible for everyone’s reactions.

        That said, an awareness of how our words and experiences may resonate with differing perspectives shows consideration and helps create a more inclusive space.

        What do you think about helping us create the kind of platform we all want to be on?

        • davel [he/him]@lemmy.ml
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          11 months ago

          It’s true that as a lemmy.ml admin, I’m not going out of my way to make this an inclusive space for traditional family values. I have different priorities for whom I make this space inclusive.

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              11 months ago

              Rarely see it spelled out that clearly, I think that’s a huge issue with modern “progressivism”.

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                11 months ago

                Progressivism has no inherent need to be all-encompassing. In fact, keeping certain groups *cough conservatives cough* not included is an essential part of successful progressivism.

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                  11 months ago

                  You’re referring to the tolerance paradox, and I completely agree with that, but I don’t think that’s what happened here.

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                  11 months ago

                  Who knew how many reactionaries would get flushed out of the bushes by a little off-hand comment about my personal life?

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            11 months ago

            So implying that name by marriage still implies ownership, excludes me, a man that wants to fly the banner of his wife’s clan.

            You aren’t supporting your “different priorities” very well.

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        11 months ago

        I don’t think I’m responsible for other adults’ reactions to my life choices or my lived experiences. my suggesting that they or their spouses changing their surnames upon marriage implies some sort of ownership.

        Hrrm, maybe have a think about it.