• NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    This is not a double standard (I’m a guy by the way, who was affected by domestic violence as a child, so keep that in mind). The statistics don’t lie. Most domestic violence is perpetrated by men. This is not a double standard.

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      10 months ago

      And there you are dismissing the problem because it isn’t as prevalent for one group.

      Do better for your fellow abuse survivors.

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        10 months ago

        I’m not dismissing the problem. The statistics show very clearly most domestic violence is perpetrated by men. Nowhere in my statement did I say women can’t also perpetrate domestic violence. The science is the science tho, and it makes sense to build things into your system for things that are most common.

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          10 months ago

          Nae, you do.

          Men are less likely to say they are the victim, specially if the aggressor is the wife. Men are supposed to “man up” if they have problems. Statistics show that women can and are agressors.

          And, most important, just because there might be less men who are victims doesnt mean they should not get the very same help if they need it. Coming around with a shitty “oh, its science!” argument is lame and perpetuates the stupid role model where men are not and cannot be the victim and if that it is not bad because its only a few.

          Any victim, no matter the gender, deserves help, no matter how many there are, period.

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            10 months ago

            I didn’t ever say men cannot be victims. You’re being intentionally obtuse, , and putting words in my mouth bcz this is an emotionally charged topic for people.

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          10 months ago

          The statistics also show that the vast plurality of it is committed by cops, does that mean we should automatically redirect any spouse of a cop to the DV hotline if they call 911?