Who knows at this point! One of my make mentors said it to me years ago. I said something stupid like “isn’t that kind of girly?” About something and he replied “real men don’t care”. Shattered my toxic masculinity.
I’m waaay happier now, and realized I can be whoever I want. I can be an and still be a massive swiftie, enjoy hard rock while enjoying a rom com that same day, it’s just easier
Men are in a constant competition to seem manlier than the person next to them.
Of course it’s not until later that it becomes obvious that it’s all just self esteem problems and not being comfortable with ourselves.
The ultimate manliness is realizing you don’t care if other people think you’re manly.
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Yes, yes it does.
Who knows at this point! One of my make mentors said it to me years ago. I said something stupid like “isn’t that kind of girly?” About something and he replied “real men don’t care”. Shattered my toxic masculinity.
I’m waaay happier now, and realized I can be whoever I want. I can be an and still be a massive swiftie, enjoy hard rock while enjoying a rom com that same day, it’s just easier
Oh I agree whole heartedly.
I meant more that if you don’t actually care, you don’t preface it with how manly that makes you.
I’m very guilty of this, especially after someone close to me was assaulted by a predatory human being.
I don’t think there’s any easy way back when self esteem & self comfort are destroyed like that either, and just worsens the “competition” thing.
Fully agree with your last point
I see you’re trying to be the bigger man by proclaiming you don’t care. Not fooling me!
Oh I agree - it’s just
shockingwell not anymore to see people pushing toxic masculinity THIS DAMNED HARD.