Women: existing
Men:
Why’d you assume we’re talking about women?
That’s kinda sexist of you if you ask me
For the tone deaf people who say this isn’t sexist or about women, look again. The whole package of ‘OMG’, exclamation marks, ‘annoying kids’, two moms, some annoying trait, is all dog-whistle for people who like to trivialize things women do.
Nice try with the ‘no u’ card, but calling people sexist for pointing out sexism is cringe and absurd.
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I live for these awkward moments:
• Standing in the middle of the aisle? “Excuse me! Pardon me! Thaaaank yeeeeeoouuuu!”
• Not going on a green light because you’re looking down at your glowing crotch? Insta-long-honk
• You and your friend are blocking a doorway while chatting? hand on shoulder “Pardon me, young man! Appreesheeyateyah!”
Always wear a smile ☺️
Seen it happen a few times
It’s blessed to see people having a nice chat in public.
ikr it’s a grocery store, not an Amazon warehouse.
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In real life they’re in fucking cars taking up both lanes near the exit to the neighborhood.
You all ever tried saying ‘excuse me’?
Adding this to the long list of things women aren’t allowed to enjoy while hurting absolutely no one (uggs, Starbucks, rose, candles, just anything branded feminine)
Edit: for the tone deaf people in the back who say this isn’t about women, look again. The whole package of ‘OMG’, exclamation marks, ‘annoying kids’, two moms, some annoying trait, is all dog-whistle for people who like to trivialize things women do. This isn’t a unique phenomenon in memes. See how men elevate, and women ruin the foods they love.
Before you comment, think about the relevance of your own experiences. Lemmy’s userbase is 77% men and sometimes it shows.
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Surely rolling my eyes and sighing is a better option.
Men do this too just so you know should I add this to the long list of things men aren’t allowed to do while hurting absolutely no on one uggs football jerseys rose candles just anything branded masculine
What has this to do with women? Men aren’t better in this situation
I am sure, the same meme but with two men in the photo wouldn’t get so many upvotes. Many people still love sexist clichés.
Yeah, your right, its also quite ridiculous that being social when meeting old friends isn’t a thing that men do, apperantly
I have no problems saying excuse me in a loud clear voice and blasting right through the center of those conversations. Being a performer at the local Renaissance festival for 30 years teaches you how to blow right through crowds with people in the way.
Yall just tell them to move.
Where I am we’d just say excuse me and they would move. However the point is that people are so in their own world they don’t think about others not being able to get by.
Right, and you can just move the shopping cart some idiot left in the middle of the only parking space left too.
It’s been so long…
since i asked them quitely if i could get past them please
Praise Satan for grocery delivery and pickup. No more memorizing a store or searching for an hour for that one little thing. No more women getting creeped out for no other reason than you’re a man in a grocery store. As if, beach - no one wants to fuck you.
Store associates (and their little stock search devices) exist so you don’t have to memorize the store or search for an hour. Just ask them a question, that’s literally
theiredit: our job.I feel like theres more to the story when you say ‘women getting creeped out’
Nah man, not in my parts. Women shop, men hunt. I don’t play that way.
No kidding. If you think you’re creeping out women by being “a man in a grocery store” there’s something off about either your behaviour or your perception of the world.
Astounding number of fucked up basement dwellers on Lemmy I guess
+1 for the “Excuse Me” Gang here
We didn’t leave reddit behind, we simply took it with us.
Which shouldn’t be necessary.
I can guarantee you do not pay 100% attention to your surroundings at all times. Even trained spies can’t do that. Sometimes you get caught up in something and otherwise forget. This is a case of special pleading…also known as a double standard. You’re expecting perfection from others but can’t meet that expectation yourself.
Get out of the doorway.
Get out of the aisle.Be courteous to the people around you, even if they aren’t there yet.
It really is THAT simple. Why do I need to stand in a doorway, or somewhere that I know is going to have some kind of traffic eventually, to talk? Just don’t stand in the way, or move out of the way when you notice you need to, and things move smoothly. IDK what the other person is on about being 100% aware and a spy isn’t capable of doing that. That’s hyperbolic and irrelevant. It’s not hard to look up or in front of you and move, and it’s even easier not to stand in an obnoxious spot or obstruct space for no reason
Why do I need to stand there? Well, why do I need to move if no one’s there? Why do we have to do anything? Why don’t I just look after me, and trust that you will speak up for yourself? If I notice you, I’ll accommodate. If I don’t notice you, I’ll be courteous when you say “Excuse me.” Why is that so hard for you to understand? You know it’s actually just as easy to say those two words as is it to avoid doorways! Maybe we all give each other some grace?
You’re expecting perfection from others but can’t meet that expectation yourself.
Welcome to dealing with the human species. You’re lucky they’re not beating you for not living up to their unrealistic and hypocritical expectations.
But alas it sometimes is. Just face the world that you are given and stop resenting it. Or at least stop holding your breath for everyone to wake up and just do better, especially if that “better” happens to cater specifically to you.
Are you literally incapable of saying “excuse me” OP? Are you a shut-in who has no friends to share conversation with?
What makes you think “excuse me” will work?
You have too much faith in humanity.
Well when you approach the situation like that.
It doesn’t matter how you approach the situation. Other people aren’t going to let your behavior affect their decisions.
Shouldn’t be necessary. People need spacial awareness.
And courtesy.
GET OUT OF THE FUCKING DOORWAY
More than one thing can be true at once. Sure, saying “excuse me” is perfectly reasonable, but it’s also true that a lot of people are obnoxiously oblivious of their surroundings in public.
Such as a group of four people who stop in the middle of the sidewalk to chat and don’t notice / make room when someone is trying to walk by. I shouldn’t have to ask you to make room. I will, but you should be self-aware enough to allow others to pass.
For example, people who only turn on their left turn signal when a light turns green. Asshole, if you’d had that on before, I would have changed lanes when approaching a red light. Now I’m stuck because the other lane is full of moving cars and I’m waiting for you to turn. Does it ruin my day? No. But it’s still inconsiderate.
People don’t think of others nearly enough. It’s truly one of my greatest irritations.
I have started employing a practice I learned in the Post Office. When approaching I say in a very loud and cheery voice, “Mind your backs, please, mind your backs [ladies and gentlemen*]” repeat until they move and then say, 'Thank you very much, [Ladies and Gents**]."
It pretty much always works to move them out of your way if you say it loud enough and usually the cheeriness means they don’t feel awkward. The trick to it all is to keep walking once they’ve noticed you.
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** Again, delete as appropriate.
Weird that so many people are being so downvoted for saying that conversation is a healthy thing and “excuse me” is an option.
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I meant in comparison to those complaining that people chatting in a grocery store aisle have 0 empathy.
I think it’s because people see it as implying that the fact that one can say “excuse me” implies that it’s therefore OK to be obnoxiously oblivious in public. I could be wrong, but I think that’s what is going on.
exactly, it shouldn’t have to require asking for you to be courteous. You should just be courteous, unprompted. If you want to have a conversation that’s great, just kindly move off to the side
Quickest way to get them to love is to join their conversation.
“Oh my god Stacy, haven’t seen you in ages! How are the kids?”
ME: “Hi Stacy, wow I thought you only used that name on OnlyFans”
My shopping cart is a weapon!
