• ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I was just thinking about this girl I worked with at a summer camp who suddenly said “you have amazing eyes” while I was talking to her. It was genuinely like two years later until I realized she said that because she was into me. I wasted the whole summer chasing a Dutch girl who, when I asked her at the end why I hadn’t gotten anywhere with her, said “I was disappointed in your physique.”

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    8th grade. A girl tells me in the presence of classmates, “I love youuuu.” I just think it’s a joke/prank so I reply, “I’m too young!” Later she privately asks me if I meant that. It didn’t click for me until high school.

    Fresh out of an all-boys high school, so no interaction with girls since 8th grade. Freshman year college, fall semester. Classmate says she’s cold and hooks her arm in mine on the walk to lecture. This happens every day. Another classmate asks if we’re dating, and I say no, she’s just cold.

    Same semester, same class, in a lab section, it’s warm. I ask my lab partner (different from arm girl) doesn’t she feel hot, why not take off her sweater. She looks at my and says, “I’m not wearing anything underneath.” Next day in lecture she’s dresssd up really nice and sits next to me.

    Every day in this lecture these 3 girls sit with me. My high school buddy who’s also in the class tells me, while we’re studying, he thinks it’s hilarious that I’m surrounded by girls. I shrug it off.

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    That isn’t even the slightest true. There hasn’t been a single moment in my life where I was in the situation that I talked with a woman outside of them being my classmates(and even then those conversations were mostly questions and the rest being things I or them said in a bigger group). I never had a real conversation with a women so there’s absolutely no chance that I missed flirting since there was no situation where flirting could have occurred.

    Sitting here writing this I realise how bad my social life/skills are.

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    If they weren’t communicating at my wavelength anyway, it wouldn’t have lead to anything 🤷‍♂️ Natural preselection.

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      my partner of 3 years was so dense i was worried she was trying to reject me subtly by just not a acknowledging my flirting .

      Eventually i had to just say “come over and lets have sex”, for her to get it. If we hadnt already known eachother for a decade I wouldve just given up because I wouldnt want to be labeled a creep in my friend group.

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    or we just eyed each other from afar, but not obviously enough for the other person to notice, and never found an excuse to make closer contact.

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    Unfortunately, I think sentiments like these lead so-labeled ugly “creeps” to start seeing false positives.

    Just communicate clearly. It’s the safest thing.

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    In high school, we had a science fiction club. I was vice president in my senior year. A year after I graduated, I was hanging out with some fellow graduates and one of them said, “How come you hated Christine so much?”

    “Who?”

    “Christine Smith. The blonde girl?”

    “The blond girl who wore all those surfer shirts?”

    “Yeah. Whats so bad about her?”

    “Nothing. She was always so quiet. I barely remember her.”

    “Yeah, well she practically threw herself at you, and you treated her like she didn’t exist.”

    “She did?”

    “Yeah. We even tried to make it easy. We set her up at parties to talk to you, and you just acted like she wasn’t even there. You were so rude.”

    “I literally had no idea. I totally would have dated her.”

    “Yeah, well, too late. She got so depressed after you graduated, that she ended up dropping out of everything and tried to kill herself. Shes been hospitalized and her parents moved away to be with her. Like, couldn’t you gave even said hi? Just because you made vice president of the club didn’t mean you were better than her or something.”

    I literally had no idea.

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      1 year ago

      She didn’t get depressed because you didn’t talk to her, and she wasn’t interested in you because you were VP of the science fiction club in high school. It all just sounds so self important even if that’s not your intent.

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      And then everybody clapped, question mark?

      Because if it were true, those colleagues were stupid AF not picking up that you weren’t picking up. Or that they tried to force the romance, clearly leading her into depression.

      So I call BS, sorry.