Semi-agree. Not time management, but about being late.
My mother always wanted to leave way too early for appointments on the idea that “you never know when you’re gonna get a flat tire.” I have pretty strong anxiety about being late as a result. I get everywhere ahead of time and feel horrible when I show up late (which almost never happens because of the anxiety to avoid it).
Interesting
Isn’t it the opposite? If you lack time management skills you need to constantly be aware of the time, while someone else does it without having to, and without needing to spend mental resources on it.
Ah, but that’s how you DEVELOP those skills in the first place. That’s the trick. They didn’t magically wake up knowing the movement of the clock gears. This is an unnatural state of mind. A forced mental distress.
By that logic, any social skills are an unnatural state of mind. Or learning math. Or anything that you weren’t born with
The precise clocks that didn’t exist until what like 1000 years ago ? are more unnatural than the presence of other people who’ve been there for at least hundreds of thousands of years.
But time management is more about knowing how long you need to do activities and planing accordingly. You practice by doing an estimation, do the thing, see how long you took and next time correcting accordingly. And there is no shame in using alarm clocks to remind you of the important bits.
That said, mental conditions like ADHD can make this incredibly hard. But in general you don’t keep the clock in your head, you keep stuff in your head and look at the clock every now and then.
But to do those estimations you need a clock in your head.
People are too sensitive to be able to hear what you’re saying without getting triggered.
They think because obsession is written in books as a disease that you’re attacking time management on a moral level.
I know what you mean. You’ve got the technical definition of obsession, you’re thinking about what it means as a mental mechanism. It means constant re-pointing of the awareness to a particular topic.
A person who practices time management is said to be “time conscious”. Consciousness is something that’s only directed at a subset of things at a time, so when we say a person is conscious of a thing we mean they’re conscious of it for a large amount of time. Being conscious of something a large amount of the time is also, at its extreme, the definition of obsession.
I think that’s what you’re saying, right?
Someone who sticks to a schedule is like a mind that sticks to a thought.
People are different. Some are born with a working internal clock, some aren’t.
I think you’re one of the few people here who even understands the internal clock concept and I respect your opinion.
People with good thyme management skills are well seasoned.
Uh, no, not really. If you’re feeling any kind of anxiety you’re doing it wrong. The only time I’ve ever had to watch the clock is during really, really boring classes and presentations.
Time management has very little to do with what time it is, counter-intuitively. Just like budgeting doesn’t really have much to do with the size of your net worth.
I just make sure I arrive early so I don’t need to worry
I don’t think this is true, or at least not true in all cases.
From what I’ve seen and talked about with friends who have poor time management skills, a big problem is they get distracted and don’t stay on task. Thinking about the clock doesn’t really enter into it in that case.
Not just the clock on the wall. The one in your head.
There is no clock in my head.
I’m a little confused what you mean by time management skills, now, too. Can you give an example of a scene that required them, and how it would look for someone with good skills and how it would look for someone with bad skills?
Like, I have a friend coming over around noon today. I need to shower and get dressed before they get here. That takes like half an hour. I might just set an alarm on my phone for like 11:15 so I remember. I’d set it to 11:15 to give myself some extra padding. I know I shouldn’t do anything that might take longer than the time available, like go for a long bike ride or start playing a video game that can’t be paused.
There’s not really any intrusive thoughts here.
You ever gotten sleepy? That’s nature’s clock.
That’s nature’s gas tank
You’re describing OCD not time management skills
My theory is that to develop time management you have to induce a kind of OCD and we’ve normalized it in society so we don’t recognize this.
Well, to be classified as a disorder a behavioral pattern has to be maladaptive
Have you considered getting evaluated for ADHD? (One of us, one of us!)
I once played Civilization for 3 days straight. I’m not sure I have this.
lmao yes dude you have it. fucking civilization for three days of course you have it
It’s pretty common for people with ADHD to be able to play video games for a long time, because games are designed to make the brain pump out dopamine.
Up to you whether to get an assessment, ofc, but time blindness is a really common symptom. Your OP and others’ responses sounded really familiar to me.
Example, I recently had an argument over what a habit is. The other party claimed it’s something you do without thinking about choosing it, like muscle memory. Which I still insist is bullshit because everyone knows a habit is when you feel weird not doing the task, and the urge to avoid the wrong feeling makes you remember the task and outweighs the urge to be lazy. (Apparently this isn’t how it works for normal people?)
I don’t think I agree with what you think “time management” skills are.
