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That yellow background is so unreadable 🍌
What confuses me is why they chose to use white text there… surely the orange background is bright enough for black text to be far easier to read?
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Yes, this is 100% black text material. Like it’s not even a question lol.
“It’s something you’ve never heard of”
“How do you know?”
“…because I’m never going to tell you about it”
Technically the truth
Hammerfall. That is all.
Maybe it’s just a super closely guarded musical secret he has to keep. The cabal of music keepers does not take blabbermouths lightly
You’re both terrible here.
If they don’t want to tell you just drop it. They’re an asshole for not sharing and you’re an asshole for being persistent about something that doesn’t matter
Nah, he shouldn’t be dating if he wants to keep his music taste a secret. Anyone who dates will get that sort of thing exposed.
Nah looked to me more like they were pushing to see how he responded after what initially sounded pretty cringe and elitist, basically confirming the tone then handing him the shovel to keep digging deeper
To play the devils advocate here, maybe music man has gotten ridiculed before with this question on his music preference. When I’m driving by myself, I’ll fire up youtube and listen to all sorts of random stuff. But I’d never subject my wife to it as I know we don’t share interest in some things.
So, if your wife asked as to whatever song your listening to is, you would react this way?
I would share my music taste more openly if the opportunity arose, but more often than not, I’m either out of data or the song on YouTube has gone (!)
My musical taste is cringe and my spouse has known it since we started dating years ago. Never felt the need to hide it from them. Good partners can respect each other’s preferences, so there’s zero need to hide what you enjoy.
I’ve had a girl straight up say to me in my car, “your music sucks, can I put mine on?” And I still wouldn’t act this way
What were you listening to?
I’m not saying it’s right, but I’d contemplate pushing someone out of the car at that point. Shots fired, Jesus.
Unfortunately I was young, dumb and unlucky in love, so I put up with that BS for way too long. My advice to anyone in that position is definitely don’t put up with it because you’re worth more than the love these kinds of people give. A healthy relationship is built on mutual love and respect. You need to give it, but you also deserve it in return.
Just lie then, what’s the point of acting like this
I don’t have an answer for that. I’m not saying he handled it right, just trying to come up with some sort of mindset he may have had to respond like this at all.
I think he was just trying to be coy
Just lie then
Not an ideal in forming relationships. Honestly, as much of a train wreck as his response was, at least it gave some useful information to the person he would potentially be dating.
I’d think it would feel bad having to lie about the music you listen to. Maybe music man is already past denial and in acceptance, just not telling anyone.
But perhaps they’re just a douche.
But I bet she shares hers. Speaking from current experience
That’s the perfect moment to know if someone will ridicule you for your music choices. If it happens, you stop the conversation right there and save yourself the trouble of a awful first date.
Well, even saying that you can’t remember the song because you snorted cocaine out of your adult diaper is better than being a jerk.
Even if that’s the reason, still, come on
But how did you find out you have different tastes without first ever sharing your music tastes
For sure, dude could have just been more blunt right away about not wanting to share that info (still strange, or maybe just embarrased?). I’ve never used a dating app, so IDK.
Well, as a metalhead, I’ve gotten a lot of negative feedback about my music choices.
When I was using dating apps I would make it clear what type of music I listened to in my profile (metal, punk, classical, folk are my mains).
Honestly it solved a lot of issues.
I bet it was this, they were just afraid of sharing this materpiece.
Haha that was great
It was Coldplay.
What I wouldn’t give to see Patrick Bateman hacking Jared Leto to death while ranting about Coldplay.
“You can’t trust people. People like Coldplay and voted for the Nazis”
“Jez, can you tell me, as a mate, someone who knows me really well, is the bottom half of me on fire?”
“No.”
What’s wrong with coldplay
How much its overplayed
Yes I would like to know too.
I’m gonna out myself here, I like Coldplay. Haven’t really gotten into the new stuff, but Viva la Vida, fix you or everglow are among my favourites.
Violet hill is my jam, idk why but i really love that one.
It was all yellow.
Do they not want sex?
I would leave a comment but you wouldn’t understand
It’s probably some absolute shit music that he’s embarrassed to mention.
My first thought was something older but really well known
“Yeah it’s just this really obscure 90s band from Seattle that no vapid 25 year old girl such as yourself would have heard of. Sad story actually, the singer blew his brains out.”
Or just good ole frank Sinatra 😂
“I love the Beatles, you’ve probably never heard of them”
“Did you ever know that you’re my hero?”
Wind beneath my wiiingsss lalala 🎵
If someone does not take the least amount of effort to answer a simple question like that one … then he doesn’t care about you in the slightest.
“But its a generic question!”
Two words: common courtesy.
People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you’ll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance. It’s a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn’t know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she’ll drop it.
Or he might just be an idiot.
Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.
They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance.
To be fair, that’s usually correct. Women have their pick of men, generally. If a guy answers a band she doesn’t like, most likely she’ll move on.
So guys lie and tell her everything she wants to hear. And then once they get their foot in the door, they can start telling the truth.
This guy handled it very badly but I can see why he didn’t want to answer.
Yeah I may not be a relationship expert but if I have to lie for an ice breaker not even a deep question just an ice breaker I don’t think that relation will work
No, people have to like the same music to be in a relationship!!!
Me and my gf have generally have an overlap in music taste (heavy metal/hard rock) but only I like heavy electronic (too “noisy”/overstimulating for bee) and the music I don’t like of hers is more pop music (I like some of it also depends how I feel)
So I’ll go break the news to her that we have to break up due to music taste. It’s a shame cus we have a ton of shared interest but this… aw man can’t believe this is why we gotta split
/s incase it wasn’t painfully obvious
Yeah, that was my thought as well. This is the type of person who is only going to say something of they think it will impress you. The second possibility is that they will share nothing of themselves, period. In either case, they don’t seem like good relationship material.
What he gave was the wrong answer IMO.
In other words, playing games, i.e trying to “tick her funne bone” so he gets someone else to play instead of himself. But what most of those guys fail to acknowledge is that “tickling her funne bone” takes time – it’s not a “free pussy pass” of any sort that you “say it”, and she goes “WHOOAAA fuck me mister! Fuck me right NOW!”. That is not “acting tough” or smart, but acting like a douche.
Nah it’s one of those things where some guys just prefer to talk about what they think matters to everyone, their job or financial conditions, music or other personal stuff might just be an extra on their minds
So an idiot.
If someone asks you about your taste in music, then clearly music matters to them.
Someone’s insecure about his Shakira collection.
Seriously though, I’m guessing this guy either doesn’t like music at all (I’ve known a few and they act like this) or got made fun of a lot for his music tastes in high school. It’s a shame this guy is probably a walking insecurity.
Which is a great reason to unmatch him and move on.
I used to share my music taste quite openly but these days not so much. Sharing stuff just gives some people more ammo to shoot you with when they want to try hold shit over your head
You don’t have a music taste problem, you have a social circle problem. Those people aren’t your friends. Who, other than a kid in school, would willingly spend time with someone who “holds shit over your head”?
Who, other than a kid in school, would willingly spend time with someone who “holds shit over your head”?
When that person is your parent. We don’t all get to choose nice and supporting families.
My mother would do that. I don’t tell her anything beyond how the weather is anymore.
early shakira songs in spanish are the bomb though, look up her mtv unplugged album
Oh absolutely, no shade on Shakira at all. Just using her as an example of something a guy might be insecure about - which is of course, stupid. Don’t be insecure about liking music, folks.
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Yeah this is like the people who would answer “radio” back in the day, when asked what their favourite music was ._.
I didn’t even know it was humanly possible to not like music at all. What were they like? Like their personalities? Did they seem sociopathic or were they generally “normal”?
I used to jokingly say “I don’t really listen to music” when people would open with that at college parties. The reactions were worthwhile.
I played guitar in a band.
“I don’t listen to music”
“…but you play guitar?”
“Yes. With very good earplugs.”
”I just play it, I don’t listen to it.”
As a fellow guitar player in an active band; I also say this to people a lot lol. I love the looks some people give when they don’t know I’m joking.
Apparently my great grandmother didn’t like any music. And people in general. But of course this was in the gramophone era, so maybe she was just an audiophile and couldn’t stand the quality…
If it were the latter she could have still enjoyed live performances (assuming those people were good musicians playing in a good venue) but yeah sounds like she just didn’t like music. Which, to me, is crazy. When people say they don’t really listen to or don’t like music, I literally can’t even imagine what that’s like. There is so much diversity in music, especially now. Playing instruments has been a part of human history for at least 40,000 years and we’ve been singing as long as we’ve had vocal cords.
I used to not like music at all and 15 year old me would have probably responded just like this guy. But for me it was more that I didn’t know what I liked until I heard it. Everyone around me exclusively listened to top 40 and RnB, or techno/house. I seriously thought there was something wrong with me cos I hated everything I heard. And then I heard metal for the first time, and everything changed.
that’s a beautiful story that happened to me as well
horns up, mate
\m/
When I’m listening to pirate shanties interspersed with songs from the Moana soundtrack, I’m not answering this question either.
There’s a lot of good examples in the comments, but the few Ive ran into were more indifferent thsn anything - like, they never heard anything that appealed to them. One guy I knew actively avoided music because it’d get stuck in his head and drive him nuts.
They seemed normal otherwise, for the most part. But they knew that disliking music was weird and were a little insecute about it.
My father in law doesn’t like music. He doesn’t dislike it either, he’s just indifferent. Apart from that he’s just your garden variety somewhat-curmudgeonly 80-year-old dude.
Nobody’s normal, we are all weird in our own way.
We’re going to talk a lot about “normal” in this class, but “normal” just means average. If any one person was exactly “normal” in every aspect, they’d be the most unique human to ever live.
- my favorite bio-psych professor in college.
I don’t dislike music, but I do view it as something very situational. I only listen to music when I’m going somewhere by bike or foot or when I’m working out. I blame my 4 years of being a mail carrier for creating this 1 to 1 connection between moving and listening to music. I never put on music when I’m home. But I dislike ‘background’ anything in general. I’ve never in my life put on a movie, TV show or podcast as ‘something to listen to in the background’. That’s baffling to me. Music is the same I guess. If I’m home it’s automatically background because I’m not gonna sit om my couch and stare at a wall while I listen to music. While if I’m working out or going somewhere I can intentionally listen.
“Anyway, how’s your day going?” “Why would I tell a stranger how my days going?”
It fucking happened to me, i asked that douche what he was doing in a day, just me being curious. Appearently i was jealous and trying to control him. Jesus fuck that kind of people, they are not worth it.
“Why would I answer a stranger asking me about a stranger asking about their day?”
“What time is it?” “Why would I tell a stranger the time?”
What are you strangers all talking around here anyway, hm!? I swear it’s everywhere on this site.
Oops wrong person, sorry.
As a dude…
Dude…
The last four songs I’ve listened to on YouTube are three pirate shanties and “We Know The Way” from the Moana soundtrack. I’m not answering this question either. :)
Smart move. Wouldn’t want to intimidate anyone with your superior taste in music
Honestly though that’s the exact kind of thing I would want to know- the real you, not the you that tell me you are.
Fuck that, “We know the way” slaps
Ah, so people are still trying online dating. Curious.
Online dating is very much the norm. I have no idea how I’d meet a new partner without it (if I was in the market for one).
I’d rather stay single than go into that online game again. It’s become too stupid for me. 10 years ago was probably the sweet spot.
As I sit here happy and secure in my own relationship, I’m inclined to say I’d rather be single than online date. But if I actually found myself single before I’m even 40 I suspect I’d change my mind eventually - that’s a lot of life left to go through alone. And the only way I’d be likely to meet someone would be online, so needs must.
I am single before 40 and I’m done. If someone falls in my lap I’m not going to complain, but other than that it’s just gonna be me, myself, and I fighting the good fight of life to the death.
It’s the best way to find a partner.
And it’s basically the norm, like someone said. Been like that for many years.
Granted this was 6 years ago, but I met my now fiancée on bumble. It might be worse now, not sure
Congratulations on your engagement!
Met my wife online, though not on a dating app. It’s not all hopeless!
Good for you! I wish you both happiness.
People do that when they don’t have an answer. I can’t remember the last song I’ve saved, for instance.
These people need to learn how to conversation then. Remember: it’s not an interrogation or exam, you don’t have to exactly answer the question as though you’ll be flunked out of a class for the wrong answer. So:
“Oh man, I don’t remember. But I really like x by y. What kind of music do you listen to?”
It’s not that hard.
I don’t do that. Just tell the truth, no need to drag a question out like this, it’s incredibly annoying. Just say you can’t remember since it’s all streaming now.
You gave a perfectly reasonable answer to the question in eight words. No evasion.
So… don’t respond until you check
Or just respond with any song. As someone else said, it’s not an exam.
Well, right, I’m not saying I’d do this. If I had to online date, heaven forbid, I’d be my authentic self. I’m so glad I never had to do this stuff. Met my wife on AOL in their chat rooms way back in the day, lol
That was online dating bruv
Nah, we worked together as community leaders back then, which is how we got to know each other.
Online.
I agree, though he’s still not a great conversationalist
What does “saving” a song even mean? I’m old and confused
It’s just something your average 25 year old does, why do you want to know so bad?
liking/favoriting/adding to a playlist, etc
maybe downloading it. I know people who actually download their favorite songs from YouTube.
I still download albums. I go to bandcamp mainly as I’m trying to get the most amount of money possible directly to the artists.
People do that when they don’t have an answer
People do that when they don’t know the basics of interacting with another human being.
Just say whatever song you like. It’s better than acting like a jerk. Even saying “I can’t remember, I haven’t heard a song in a long time” is better than being a jerk with a person you just met on a DATING APP.
I haven’t heard a song in a long time
That’s a really funny way to phrase 'i’m not much of a music person".
