Klingons disagree, but still you made me laugh. Thanks! 😂

I would but you’d probably say “it’s not canon” or something like that /j (I’m equally start trek and star wars, I can hate and agree with everyone!)

I know exactly what you mean. Just for general information, I’ve found another android client that I think it’s better than Conversations. It’s called Monocles chat (and it’s on f-droid). On matrix/xmpp I install the whatsapp bridge. I can convert a few close family members but no way everyone. For me it’s an acceptable compromise. I get the close members to use my servers/apps, everyone else through the bridge so I can at least have all the chat in one place

Why not host your own git repo (e.g. gitea) so you can do 2 or 4 without opening services outside?

The chat server (matrix and xmpp have different ones, but same functionality) that act like a whatsapp desktop client. Have you ever run whatsapp desktop client on your pc, where you have to pair it with your phone? Same thing, but you do it withing a special “bridge” (usually as a bot) in matrix or xmpp. So you get all the messages in one place. But it doesn’t work for calls, just for messages.

Frienda no, but I do use whatsapp bridges so I can have all conversations in one place.

Family with extreme nagging, and because I’m the IT guy of the house so they kinda trust me/can’t be bothered to try and out-talk me.

Gajim on pc (I use arch btw - well endeavourOS because I can’t be bothered) and don’t remember what on android (there is the full list or clients and capabilities on xmpp.org)

No.

Yeah ok. First of all, because I can 😁. I mean z what’s good being an IT nerd if I can’t change stuff when I want?

Jokes aside, I’ve been reading more recently on matrix and looks like there are some security issues in the design of the app/protocol. I’m on mobile now, I’ll look for sources when I’m on pc. Also I don’t like that it is a server centric system (so data is primarily on the server instead of the clients). Also it takes more resources than I was expecting. For less than 10 users I can’t have less than 4gb of ram (on a dedicated debian server, running docker) or it swaps so much it kills the system.

So basically I’m testing out if xmpp is a better system for those issues.

I’ve been using matrix for years to this purpose, but moving to xmpp/prosody now

I ended up with xz. According to this page it’s the one with the best compression ratio. It’s also the slowest but since it was one off I didn’t mind about it.

Username checks out! Also you’re absolutely right, just last month I was looking for the best compression algorithm/packages to archive a 70gb DB

Having multiple interfaces in each vm can lead to issues with routing if you screw something up.

Like you said I’d expose the services via reverse proxy in the public vlan, and enable ssh access on the firewall only from a jumpbox or the ip of your pc (or maybe the vlan you are in).

Also powerwasher game, satisfying

I’ve been told that zerotier is even better. Haven’t tried it myself (it looks more complicated to selfhost) but the guy suggesting it knows waaaaay more than me on these things. Just if you want to look into another option.

For what it’s worth (from a random guy on the internet) selt-hosting tailscale is quite easy! 🙂

I’m self hosting headscale (foss implementation of tailscale control server) for this scenario. Works great!

sorry for late reply. So far is great. I can feed it custom paths on my NAS and it doesn’t touch the pictures/import them/etc. (which was the main requirement for me). It just works with what you feed it. Face recognition is good. Search is good. The 3rd party app (uhuru photos) is not great, but still under development. But the mobile interface works anyway well enough.

I have been using opnsense on a very cheap celeron nuc for a few years, very happy with it

And then call you a week later when they need something

As everyone said, debian. I use it for my mail server, the docker server, podman server, matrix, headscale. On docker I also have nvidia drivers for hardware video decoding in jellyfin.

I tried immich, photoprism and piwigo. I settled with librephotos. Iirc it was because of the face recognition capabilities and read the photos from my nas.