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Good for you! Honestly it’s very hard to make actual friends as an adult. Even if you’re extraverted, lasting ones rarely come along.
Thank you, genuinely. I am definitely not an extrovert. I generally go out to just exist in public, to vicariously extract social experiences through those around me… but when I went today it had been 30+ hours since I’d slept so I was wired on cortisol. I was a chatty mofo. (Good outcome to a bad situation. Also got a fucking great latee before I’m normally awake, so today was a good day in spite of being a bad day) 😊
That is fantastic to read. I’m smiling from vicarious happiness.
Thank you! I’m super pumped!
Congratulations!
That’s wonderful! It’s so hard to make friends as an adult.
and before this sounds creepy, I’m also a woman and not interested in relationships at all, plus she’s happily coupled
Where the hell are we at, as a society, that we feel the need for these kinda qualifiers?!
Kudos though OP :)
I typically only go when she’s working because she and I get along well
I think this was the part where things might have gotten creepy
Good for you! I hope you go on many tiny adventures together. There is something so comforting in having a nice neighbor friend.
I have lived in this town for 11 years and have not made any friends. No work friends, no friends I have met otherwise. It doesn’t help that I hate living here and this town sucks.
That said, I am very happy for you!
“Friends”? Isn’t that that thing from back in middle school? (/s but not really…)
As an adult, I got 3 ways to make friends, even superficial ones : work, parents association where I usually get a position at the bureau to get to a big pool of people around my age and possible common interests, sports. If you’re unhappy and it reflects on the outside people may unfortunately not want to start a convo with you. Would a move be possible?
Unfortunately, I had to quit my job to put my daughter in online school, negating the first two, and I’m not into sports.
I have plenty of old friends, I just have to drive over an hour to see them.
As an adult, I got 3 ways to make friends, even superficial ones : work, parents association where I usually get a position at the bureau to get to a big pool of people around my age and possible common interests, sports. If you’re unhappy and it reflects on the outside people may unfortunately not want to start a convo with you. Would a move be possible?
You should think about moving. I grew up in a pretty dull town, where there’s only conservative assholes. Turned out, moving to a bigger city did wonders to my mood.
I wish I could. My wife has her dream job and she let me have mine for over a decade. She also gets paid far better than I ever did.
and before this sounds creepy, I’m also a woman and not interested in relationships at all, plus she’s happily coupled
Aha! So you’re a lesbian homewrecker who’s only interested in casual sex!
(I knew it)
Congrats OP. Friends are few and far between these days.
Yeah, same happened to me. Been recently talking to someone and it flowed well. Miracles happen wherever you’re ready for them.
I’m so happy for you! How cool!
Congrats ! Making friends as an adult is so hard.
Not being a native English speaker, by local establishments do you mean she’s a waitress or a bartender?
Thats good, congrats, it does get difficult to start an actual friendship, there are a lot of people i talk with but I dont use friends as those relationships because it hasnt evolved to that aspect. Maintaining them is very important though, otherwise one side can get burnt out with putting in more of the effort. All the best to your continued success.
