• yemmly@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I wanna be supportive but, fucking Mildred?

    Engaging in sexual intercourse with Mildred is perfectly fine as long as there is mutual consent. However, it is not required. Kind words are usually sufficient.

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    I gotta agree with the post. Millie would be a cute alternative Mildred. The name reminds me of mildew.

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      Nobody’s saying that it’s a made-up name. Just that it’s really stupid. It’s the name of a housewife during the Great depression

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        Since I am not from the western hemisphere, I find it difficult to understand what is wrong with the name. Is it just that it sounds bad? Or any other reason?

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          This excerpt from the linked Wikipedia article for the name abstractly summarizes it nicely.

          It reached the rank of the sixth most popular name for girls in the United States in 1912 and maintained that popularity through 1920, but then its popularity dropped quickly afterward.[2]

          The name Mildred was very common about a hundred years ago, but never really at any other point since. If you see the name Mildred without seeing the person in question your first thoughts will be that they are extremely old. That’s really about it.

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        I don’t see what’s wrong with the name. What’s bad about housewifes¹ during the Great Depression? Those people have had their lives we could respect like we do Billies or Gretas today too.

        ¹Apart from gendered division of unpaid labour and care

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            Might be a few name entry fields that disagree but yes, in the US, entirely valid.

            Meanwhile in Iceland:

            You can be Aagot, Arney or Ásfríður; Baldey, Bebba or Brá. Dögg, Dimmblá, Etna and Eybjört are fine; likewise Frigg, Glódís, Hörn and Ingunn. Jórlaug works OK, as do Obba, Sigurfljóð, Úranía and – should you choose – Vagna.

            But you cannot, as a girl in Iceland, be called Harriet.

            “The whole situation,” said Tristan Cardew, with very British understatement, “is really rather silly.”

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              Banning blatant slurs or directly offensive names is understandable, but unless Harriet means something really offensive there then it is just silly to have that restriction.

              The article points out that it is mostly to conform with language structure, but that is still a bit heavy handed.

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        https://www.kalzumeus.com/2010/06/17/falsehoods-programmers-believe-about-names/

        Falsehoods Programmers Believe About Names
        Patrick McKenzie
        2010-06-17

        John Graham-Cumming wrote an article today complaining about how a computer system he was working with described his last name as having invalid characters. It of course does not, because anything someone tells you is their name is — by definition — an appropriate identifier for them. John was understandably vexed about this situation, and he has every right to be, because names are central to our identities, virtually by definition.

        I have lived in Japan for several years, programming in a professional capacity, and I have broken many systems by the simple expedient of being introduced into them. (Most people call me Patrick McKenzie, but I’ll acknowledge as correct any of six different “full” names, any many systems I deal with will accept precisely none of them.) Similarly, I’ve worked with Big Freaking Enterprises which, by dint of doing business globally, have theoretically designed their systems to allow all names to work in them. I have never seen a computer system which handles names properly and doubt one exists, anywhere.

        So, as a public service, I’m going to list assumptions your systems probably make about names. All of these assumptions are wrong. Try to make less of them next time you write a system which touches names.

        1. People have exactly one canonical full name.
        2. People have exactly one full name which they go by.
        3. People have, at this point in time, exactly one canonical full name.
        4. People have, at this point in time, one full name which they go by.
        5. People have exactly N names, for any value of N.
        6. People’s names fit within a certain defined amount of space.
        7. People’s names do not change.
        8. People’s names change, but only at a certain enumerated set of events.
        9. People’s names are written in ASCII.
        10. People’s names are written in any single character set.
        11. People’s names are all mapped in Unicode code points.
        12. People’s names are case sensitive.
        13. People’s names are case insensitive.
        14. People’s names sometimes have prefixes or suffixes, but you can safely ignore those.
        15. People’s names do not contain numbers.
        16. People’s names are not written in ALL CAPS.
        17. People’s names are not written in all lower case letters.
        18. People’s names have an order to them. Picking any ordering scheme will automatically result in consistent ordering among all systems, as long as both use the same ordering scheme for the same name.
        19. People’s first names and last names are, by necessity, different.
        20. People have last names, family names, or anything else which is shared by folks recognized as their relatives.
        21. People’s names are globally unique.
        22. People’s names are almost globally unique.
        23. Alright alright but surely people’s names are diverse enough such that no million people share the same name.
        24. My system will never have to deal with names from China.
        25. Or Japan.
        26. Or Korea.
        27. Or Ireland, the United Kingdom, the United States, Spain, Mexico, Brazil, Peru, Russia, Sweden, Botswana, South Africa, Trinidad, Haiti, France, or the Klingon Empire, all of which have “weird” naming schemes in common use.
        28. That Klingon Empire thing was a joke, right?
        29. Confound your cultural relativism! People in my society, at least, agree on one commonly accepted standard for names.
        30. There exists an algorithm which transforms names and can be reversed losslessly. (Yes, yes, you can do it if your algorithm returns the input. You get a gold star.)
        31. I can safely assume that this dictionary of bad words contains no people’s names in it.
        32. People’s names are assigned at birth.
        33. OK, maybe not at birth, but at least pretty close to birth.
        34. Alright, alright, within a year or so of birth.
        35. Five years?
        36. You’re kidding me, right?
        37. Two different systems containing data about the same person will use the same name for that person.
        38. Two different data entry operators, given a person’s name, will by necessity enter bitwise equivalent strings on any single system, if the system is well-designed.
        39. People whose names break my system are weird outliers. They should have had solid, acceptable names, like 田中太郎.
        40. People have names.

        This list is by no means exhaustive. If you need examples of real names which disprove any of the above commonly held misconceptions, I will happily introduce you to several. Feel free to add other misconceptions in the comments, and refer people to this post the next time they suggest a genius idea like a database table with a first_name and last_name column.

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          What would be an example of #8? Are there names which gradually morph from one name into another over time? In what way could a name change such that the change doesn’t occur at a specific point in time?

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            That one isn’t saying that names change gradually. It’s saying that names can change at any time and for any reason, not just e.g. when a woman gets married or something.

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    I 100% support people to transition. I don’t think people should get to pick their own names without any veto.

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    Thought Slime goes by Mildred…

    But they’re kind of self-aware, so I think it’s supposed to make them more off-putting.

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      I used to watch Thought Slime a lot, even donated to them a few times… then started watching videos from the people they’ve “called out” on stream, followed a rabbit-hole of people who were hurt and never apologized to and realized they’re just another youtube dramafarmer clicks-at-all-costs, no discrimination, storyline-crafting liar. Like everyone.

      Free yourselves humanity, stop watching streamers.

      edit: I know the parasocialism online runs really deep and just saying this is going to get some people losing their shit to defend their fav streamer, I literally don’t care, you have to be aware that every streamer has an army of knights to defend them, and I don’t like engaging that way and am not going to spend my time arguing. I’m not out to change your mind, just explain why I changed mine.

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    It could be a David Foster Wallace reference. “In the eighth American-educational grade, Bruce Green fell dreadfully in love with a classmate who had the unlikely name of Mildred Bonk. The name was unlikely because if ever an eighth-grader looked like a Daphne Christianson or a Kimberly St.-Simone or something like that, it was Mildred Bonk.”

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    Mildred is on my top list of dog names, along with Myrtle, Milhouse, Milton, Mortimer, and Mable. We currently have Monty, Mary, and Maizie.

    Never for a human, though. It’s too old fashioned. Unless you’re thought slime, then it just fucking works for some reason…

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        Started as a coincidence, turned into a bit of a tradition. Before the M names we named them solely on characters from our favorite media (Ricky, Lucy, Ethel, fred, Jack for a character from The Talisman, Ellie Mae). We’ve fostered a lot, so there’s been a lot of names. But when we got Monty, for Monty Python, we then named the next one Mary, for Mary Tyler Moore. We decided to name her sister Maizie, and just run with it.