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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • I work pretty much a 40 hour week hybrid. I go in to the office about 3 days a week with about a 1.5 hour round trip commute. I’m usually home just after my youngest gets home from school and at the same time my oldest gets home. So we’re pretty much all home at the same time. Wife is a stay at home mom by choice, but did just start college. I think it’s more that she literally thinks there isn’t anything else for them to do. Both my kids are on the spectrum, both boys. 15 yr old is high functioning and a straight A student, but literally sits on his computer watching youtube or playing games from the moment he gets home from school until about 8-9 at night, then gets off his PC to watch youtube on his phone for like another 30-60 minutes. My youngest is 9 and lower functioning, has outbursts (stomps, throws things, breaks things) when he doesn’t get his way, and hoarding issues. The good thing is that my youngest tends to get bored with screens more than my oldest and will somewhat self regulate in that department. I’m more concerned about my oldest because he could live a completely normal life, but when his screen time is like 5-6 hours on school days and like 12-14 hours on non-school days, it’s concerning. He has no friends in or out of school. We’ve tried to help him along in that department, he even had some phone numbers of other kids in some of his classes, but will never talk to them. If they’d text him, he’d give 1 or 2 word responses and that’s the end. Even had some girls crush on him, but no reaction. Youtube is that kid’s life and even though he is so smart, I have a feeling he’s going to throw his talents away because he’d rather just sit in front of Youtube. We can offer to do things together or go out to do things and they both would rather just sit there.


  • Completely agree and I’m scared for my kids. I tried screen limits on their devices, but my wife just lets them have more time anyway. I’ve said that they need to find something else to do. So then I get asked “what are they going to do?” or told “then you need to come up with something for them to do”. Isn’t part of growing up developing problem-solving skills and being creative? If I was bored as a kid I looked around or thought about what else I could do and always had options. My wife has basically stripped any options from them by placing the burden all on me and blaming me. I’ve laid out options to her like going outside to play or playing with their toys that they never touch anymore. I’ve even told her that they should have play dates and there’s always an excuse as to why those are not viable options. Not sure what else I can do.