Agreed that it’s insane. The way I look at it is that there is an inherent amount of danger in any activity. Doesn’t matter how safe or dangerous something is, conscious acceptance of the risk is satisfying.
I think not experiencing life for the short time it exists is insane. Being that controlled by fear, I think that person’s ironically the biggest threat to their life, laying waste to experiences and opportunities to live it. A sane person wouldn’t do that to themselves.
There’s a balance though, right? Fear keeps us alive and is good at that. By this argument I could easily talk myself into trying heroin and be miserable then dead in 6 months.
To put it simply, “To live with as few regrets on the dying day as possible.” Fear helps us survive but also holds us back. It keeps people away from heroin, but also puts them in miserable ruts. Individually it’s different for all, but learning to control fear and not let it control you opens up a world of amazing possibilities and experiences. To have a life worth dying for is an achievement most squander until it’s far too late.
Yeah I’m just saying it’s not always easy to strike the balance. I’m several times more open to risk than my grandparents were, but I’m willing to bet I’m much more risk averse than you are. I think we are all controlled by “fear” to a large extent because if we weren’t, we wouldn’t last long.
I’ve been thinking about quitting my job for years. But there are so many pluses to it that it’s incredibly hard to go through with it. On the other hand, I’m a slave stuck inside most of my life. I haven’t figured out how to quit my job without blowing up my path to a secure retirement. It’s hard. Life’s hard.
Well, that’s easy. Just don’t make your retirement dependent on your current situation. Go explore the world and find better ways and meet good souls. You probably randomly stumbled into your situation through a jobs website or hiring agency. Not exactly a life defining moment when you can do it again any other week but now with a backlog of experience.
There’s a lot of better opportunities out there. And if you don’t like them, you can always come back. But sometimes pulling the plug feels scary because you don’t know what’s going to happen, despite plug pullers always saying it was the best thing they did.
They will die sad, regretful, and unfulfilled, having believed that lie. This should haunt them now, but instead it’s short-term “what if” scenarios looping in the mind that convinces them that their life’s “too complicated right now”. Your remark there is a classic example of what I was just saying, and you genuinely believe it to be so as well. My guess is you’re in a comfortable rut right now, have thought about leaving it, but when you do you convince yourself that it’s too risky and therefore not an option. Your fear has morphed into.anxiety. Remove from life the things that make you anxious, your house, your job, your partner, whatever, and you will be free and happy again.
So without knowing my circumstance, you claim to know the solution…
Curious, do you know of any jobs available for someone with only a bachelor’s degree (not even in their field of work), that pay very well, and also keep next to zero tabs on employee’s day to day, and also pay a large percentage of their employee’s salary freely into a 401k, no matching required? Virtually no meetings and allows work from home. I keep my camera nearly off every day, and no one harasses me about it.
I don’t know of an opportunity even close to this elsewhere. I had a coworker friend go from my employer to an enormous corporation where he likely tripled his salary. But his work life balance was garbage. He quit, and now he’s coming back to my current company. I’m very lucky. I just also happen to be very bored. Boredom comes from a failure to properly entertain oneself, so this is largely on me.
Again, you’re passing judgement as if there were one simple binary factor there aren’t. You don’t know me. I appreciate it if you truly are trying to help, but it’s also a bit condescending and necessarily ignorant.
Agreed that it’s insane. The way I look at it is that there is an inherent amount of danger in any activity. Doesn’t matter how safe or dangerous something is, conscious acceptance of the risk is satisfying.
I think not experiencing life for the short time it exists is insane. Being that controlled by fear, I think that person’s ironically the biggest threat to their life, laying waste to experiences and opportunities to live it. A sane person wouldn’t do that to themselves.
There’s a balance though, right? Fear keeps us alive and is good at that. By this argument I could easily talk myself into trying heroin and be miserable then dead in 6 months.
To put it simply, “To live with as few regrets on the dying day as possible.” Fear helps us survive but also holds us back. It keeps people away from heroin, but also puts them in miserable ruts. Individually it’s different for all, but learning to control fear and not let it control you opens up a world of amazing possibilities and experiences. To have a life worth dying for is an achievement most squander until it’s far too late.
Yeah I’m just saying it’s not always easy to strike the balance. I’m several times more open to risk than my grandparents were, but I’m willing to bet I’m much more risk averse than you are. I think we are all controlled by “fear” to a large extent because if we weren’t, we wouldn’t last long.
I’ve been thinking about quitting my job for years. But there are so many pluses to it that it’s incredibly hard to go through with it. On the other hand, I’m a slave stuck inside most of my life. I haven’t figured out how to quit my job without blowing up my path to a secure retirement. It’s hard. Life’s hard.
Well, that’s easy. Just don’t make your retirement dependent on your current situation. Go explore the world and find better ways and meet good souls. You probably randomly stumbled into your situation through a jobs website or hiring agency. Not exactly a life defining moment when you can do it again any other week but now with a backlog of experience.
There’s a lot of better opportunities out there. And if you don’t like them, you can always come back. But sometimes pulling the plug feels scary because you don’t know what’s going to happen, despite plug pullers always saying it was the best thing they did.
It’s not. Your heart might be in the right place, but you really don’t know other people’s lives
They will die sad, regretful, and unfulfilled, having believed that lie. This should haunt them now, but instead it’s short-term “what if” scenarios looping in the mind that convinces them that their life’s “too complicated right now”. Your remark there is a classic example of what I was just saying, and you genuinely believe it to be so as well. My guess is you’re in a comfortable rut right now, have thought about leaving it, but when you do you convince yourself that it’s too risky and therefore not an option. Your fear has morphed into.anxiety. Remove from life the things that make you anxious, your house, your job, your partner, whatever, and you will be free and happy again.
So without knowing my circumstance, you claim to know the solution…
Curious, do you know of any jobs available for someone with only a bachelor’s degree (not even in their field of work), that pay very well, and also keep next to zero tabs on employee’s day to day, and also pay a large percentage of their employee’s salary freely into a 401k, no matching required? Virtually no meetings and allows work from home. I keep my camera nearly off every day, and no one harasses me about it.
I don’t know of an opportunity even close to this elsewhere. I had a coworker friend go from my employer to an enormous corporation where he likely tripled his salary. But his work life balance was garbage. He quit, and now he’s coming back to my current company. I’m very lucky. I just also happen to be very bored. Boredom comes from a failure to properly entertain oneself, so this is largely on me.
Again, you’re passing judgement as if there were one simple binary factor there aren’t. You don’t know me. I appreciate it if you truly are trying to help, but it’s also a bit condescending and necessarily ignorant.