Edit: LOL love the responses. You ain’t wrong…
Edit2: I posted this for giggles and have enjoyed it immensely. Thanks for the “parenting advice” (rolls eyes). My daughter is a shit show, but I wouldn’t trade her in for anything. She has three daughters, one of which is exactly like her and the two others are not. So…
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Arranging dishes in the dishwasher neatly is only for when there are a lot of dishes that wouldn’t fit otherwise. If there are only a couple of dishes, then it’s whatever, as long as they get clean, it doesn’t matter.
I would encourage you to be more considerate: your daughter is an adult, with her own thoughts and feelings, and her own family. If I were her, I would certainly not appreciate if one of my parent tried to shame me in front of strangers on the Internet over how I load my dishes and threatening to disown me for it, even “as a joke”.
You’re doing just great at shaming yourself to strangers on the internet. Keep it up.
She’s from group B. Group A loads correctly. Group B does this stuff on purpose so we in group A will just stop letting them screw this up and they no longer have to load it.
Not necessarily. Some of us are ADHD and we do things like put regular dish detergent in the dishwasher instead of the proper one and make a huge mess, or we load and wash normally but forget we ever did that so the clean dishes just sit in there long enough until they probably need to be rewashed.
There’s also group C which I was part of, you just say that you just pooped or scratch your butt whenever they ask you to load/unload and they’ll immediately offer to do that for you instead.
You would get a “wash your hands” from me.
And then group c proceeds to grab the first dish with some flippant saying about it being no big deal. It’s not just weaponized incompetence or avoiding any help at that point, it’s being an asshole. Living with others that don’t have cooperation as a goal is a nightmare.
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No problem the chemicals and heat will fix that
Make her clean those dishes manually. “Daughter, meet sponge, soap and faucet.”
You have brought shame on your bloodline with your failed attempts at raising a child.
My wife refused the dishwasher for months after moving in. Hand wash only.
“It is not clean.”
Fuck I know. Maybe they don’t have good ones in the Philippines? Still trying to deprogram the “tradwife” out of her. 😂 But now she uses it! And sometimes allows me to do our dishes!
Throw it away and make a new one
Nah, OP could probably sell her. For cheap of course, given the circumstances, but still.
If you think “loading the dishwasher” means getting your wife drunk, you might be a redneck.
-Jeff Foxworthy
My adult step-kid can’t even think to put something in the dishwasher without being asked, so it could be worse?
Have you considered sitting down with them and savagely beating them?
There are fresh young adult organs to harvest, why would I risk bruising them?
That is why you only hit them with an orange in a tubesock on the back and thighs, won’t damage those organs and will show them who is boss; plus you can juice that behavior correction citrus and get some vitamin c after.
Why are you on Lemmy asking children for parenting advice? Seems like most responses are blaming you as if an adult needs to be taught something as rudimentary as loading a dishwasher. Simple solution, box up all the plates, cups, silverware. Replace with disposable stuff
You are surely one of these children it seems.
What a strange sentence
I don’t know the demographics of Lemmy, but children are the minority here…
Comments like these make me feel i never left reddit
I don’t think you need to parent an adult child.
Sometimes you do, you don’t stop being a parent after your child turns 18. You can still try and help them especially if you think something this simple has been done wrong. Shaming your child online because of how they load the dishwasher is just stupid.
This honestly looks fine. (Assuming this is before the dishwasher has run). There’s not like solid chunks of food or anything just the actual stuff that you own a dishwasher to wash off for you so you don’t have to. The configuration of the dishes is haphazard and chaotic but if you want to fit a lot of dishes it usually ends up that way. The cup and cup like vessels not being upside down is a problem but for the most part things are upside down or on their side as they should be. I want the dishwasher to wash dishes for me not the other way around. If you get the occasional dish after a cycle that hasn’t completely cleaned you have to wash it yourself, which sucks, but that doesn’t always happen so there’s a reasonable chance you won’t have to, and when it does happen, it’s still way cleaner than it was so you’re talking a cursory fix up of very few dishes. I’d take that over rinsing each and every one every time or having to hand wash half the load when there’s a lot of dishes in service of a neater stacking configuration that’s optimal but less space efficient.
The problem is that ceramic and glass dishes often chip if they are in contact with each other in the dishwasher.
Do you have a dishwasher or a rock tumbler at home?
Yes.
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You can tell the people who use plastic dishware in this post.
Animals.
You lost me, can you provide some context?
Plastic dishware doesn’t break on impact with like.
Those who say this is fine seem to not be taking into account the fact of brittle materials touching like here.
Indicating they aren’t aware of the problem, indicating they don’t have brittle dishes.
Or, and this is a stretch but stay with me, their glass/ceramic dishes don’t randomly chip in the dishwasher.
Okay. Stay with me here, cause I guess we’re being contemptuous now.
You asked for context. I provided it.
I was naive to trust you were being genuine. Won’t happen again.
This is why I own plastic and metal dishes. That and I have a small child. Stitches even one time from a dropped plate cost me more than replacing all of my dishes.
The dishwasher also reduces clean water usage by a significant amount.
When my colleagues load the dishes haphazardly at work, I find I can fit several more cups, plates, and bowls by reorganizing them neatly.
I guess I should say “appears haphazard” as I don’t know if it really has been stacked with reckless abandon or of it’s a kind of organised chaos as the two tend to look very similar. When your colleagues stack the dishwasher at work, they’re adding to the load a little at a time until there’s literally no room and someone has to run it. In such an instance there’s no particular method to their madness other than fitting their one plate or one cup that they’re personally trying to deal with.
When you’re stacking a full load start to finish you’re stacking with the aim of fitting everything you have from a large load of dishes of which really don’t want to have any left out. In doing so, I at least, find that while one starts with some attempt at being organized, you’ll eventually realise that if you just slightly lift this concave object slightly up so it’s still upside down but not completely, you can squeeze this one awkward shaped small object in next to it, and this large flat but not very deep baking dish for which there is now no room on the bottom shelf will juuust fit if I kind of wedge diagonally a little and over the top some cups and small objects which hopefully will be small enough that some water can get between them and spray up and clean the baking dish. In the end it it can look like you put no thought in to it all but you know that you tesselated a 3d puzzle quite nimbly to squash the maximum possible number of dishes in there and then more often than not, despite all the fretting that certain types have over correct stacking, it ends up coming out much the same as when it’s a lightly stacked load with optimal spacing. It definitely sometimes doesn’t work out that way, but even then, in the absolute worst case scenarios where several dishes, not just one or two, didn’t get all the way clean, you need only then unstack those that did clean fully and the remainders are already stacked ready for another cycle right away or to wait til later to make a fuller but hopefully not as full load.
She’s trying, and she’s already got the concept of “concave side down” so you need to acknowledge that. Moving on, “water sprays from the center” and “similar shapes share space” are good concepts to add. She can’t exactly do “Don’t crowd” because there are just too many here. But she’s fully grasped “you can always rerun anything that doesn’t come clean the first time.”
Her brain is capable of detecting error and correcting it without any intervention at all.
I’m in the gratitude-only camp here.
She’s already got the senses and reasoning capability to detect and correct the problem. Fastest way to improve her effort is to provide the thing she cannot provide herself: evidence that her efforts are appreciated.
Agreed, although if OP is specific about it, telling her they noticed she remembered to put the glasses on the top rack, etc. then they can do a little “I’ve found this makes it easier…” to show how a row of same-sized bowls on their sides can fit on the bottom rack. Because then you can Wolverine them all out at once and stack them on the shelf in one movement! Dishwasher Tetris can be a fun challenge.
I tried dishwasher tetris for a while but I got too good at it, and ended up losing all my flatware
Take out half the stuff and do two loads.
Then OP would come along, see a pile of dishes still in the sink, and post it on Lemmy. There’s probably only 3-4 items that are really going to be left with food residue here. She can put the others away and leave those in the machine for another go.
concave side down
Yeah, she doesn’t seem to be applying that, I see sideways containers.
But you don’t see any that will pool water. Sideways is perfectly fine if they face generally toward the center, or in any direction the machine sprays, if it has side sprayers. What you want to avoid is catching the wash water so it pollutes the rinse water.
Jon Richardson would probably say yes
I side with Jon 100%, and I do 100% of the dish washing.
But unlike Jon, I’m not married to an absolute head case. He knew what he was getting into.
I’ve never watched his show so only knew of Lucy Beaumont through taskmaster and headcase is what came to mind with how insane some of the things she said was.
We’ve been watching a bunch of British panel shows for years, so we knew she definitely was a character. But taskmaster definitely proved how much of a headcase she really is. She really surprised me that she made it to adulthood.
That guy’s delightful.
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You clearly failed as a parent.
You could always just kill her and eat her organs.
That’ll show her…
