Inspired by the 300 billionth “women of reddit what are green flags” thread. The thought struck me “hey you’re complaining about all these guys you dated but you still dated them…what’s up with that?”
what the fuck is this incel shit
It’s okay, one day you’ll get it
“Hey you’re complaining about all the asbestos you had in your house but you still had asbestos in your house…what’s up with that?”
Past choices don’t reflect present knowledge or values. This is true on both a personal and societal level.
At some point if you keep preferring houses with asbestos, it’s on you
Same is true for dating and green flags.
They also stopped dating them at some point apparently, so I’m not sure what you are trying to say. It’s not like the early stages of dating usually involve mowing the lawn or cleaning the house together so that’s something you only find out after having already found plenty of other things to like about this person.
I mean, I do know girls who dated an endless string of painfully handsome guys who spent all their free time in the gym and taking selfies only to find out that they were shallower than a mud puddle and couldnt keep their dick in their pants.
But kept doing it.
For a long time I’d get involved with confident, self-possessed women who started picking fights six months into dating because they enjoyed the catharsis. It took me three major relationships to find the line between “assertive” and “mean”.
It takes time and experience to learn lessons, and big problems rarely manifest early on in a relationship. Ignoring red flags is foolish, but misinterpretation happens.
My man you need to spend less time in the shower
That’s a new one
That’s one of the worst analogies I’ve ever seen.
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I mean, no. But I get your point. Even a blind man could see how bad it is.
Worst retort I ever heard.
What’s it like being deaf?
Omg
Aw, honey, you’re doing it again. Try harder next time.
One minor complication: People learn and develop their knowledge of what they want from experience. Where the performance of a given bomber model over german flak batteries should remain fairly consistent over time, a person’s tastes should not. Since they’re likely to change over time, one cannot simply use old data to extrapolate for future results. The system just has more variables than that.
Additionally, even if you were able to use old data to extrapolate for future results, this would simply tell you you’re likely to get the same result as those other guys that were dated: a failed relationship.
All that said, kudos for the succinct summary of survivorship bias, even if it doesn’t fully apply in this case.
Depends on your criteria for failure. If you’re looking for marriage and kids, not a great strategy. If you’re just looking to have fun, statistically it’s very reasonable. These guys got dates with these women. Consistently enough to form a trope.
Maybe quit treating relationships as adversaries and enemies?
But what about that old phrase “all is fair in love and war?” 🤔
There are lots of stupid old sayings…
Literally warfare
Trenches of love
