• Tattorack@lemmy.world
    32·
    16 days ago

    No thank you. I don’t have the time, the money, or the energy to go looking for a girlfriend… Or spend it on a whole other human and their unique set of needs.

    • DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social
      10·
      16 days ago

      What if I were to tell you you’re supposed to get some of that back in a relationship as it moves towards becoming a partnership?

      Or that hanging out with them, aka a date, is supposed to be fun?

      • Tattorack@lemmy.world
        5·
        15 days ago

        If you feel like it’s fun or that you need a partnership, then go ahead. My time is already divided as it is, and I just don’t want it even more divided.

        I hardly have any time left to do the things I want to do, to study art and practice 3D. Any time I spend on other things most certainly will not be taken away from my job hours, but will be from my free time.

        So I don’t want to waste time and money trying to find someone in the first place (most people are incredibly unitereresting), and then waste even more time trying to make it work.

  • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    31·
    16 days ago

    I’m too fucked up for an SO. There’s a song lyric that goes “How’s anyone else gonna love you, if you don’t love you too” and like, yeah. Way too full of self hatred to be appealing to anyone.

      • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
        6·
        16 days ago

        No, see, the real red flags are the ones you aren’t aware of yet.

        Those are the ones I’m frightened of. Like there’s just this itty-bit of something just waiting for the right bump to break and cut my brake lines while I’m on the highway.

        I don’t know what it is, but I know it’s there, so I gotta be self-critical until I find the piece to fix!

        At the very least I can tell you my job isn’t in sales.

    • big_slap@lemmy.world
      101·
      16 days ago

      at least you are self aware enough to potentially fix this self hatred you have for yourself. people go on their entire lives living like this, its a vicious cycle. good luck!

          • hperrin@lemmy.world
            2·
            16 days ago

            Just once. No reason to be sorry though. The only big loss was the money that went to the wedding.

            • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
              1·
              16 days ago

              The only big loss was the money that went to the wedding.

              I learned recently the cost to getting married in my state and county is $60 ($20 for the license and $40 for the officiant to marry you and process the license to probate). That is less money than it cost for 2 tickets to see an evening movie and get concession stand food. I had no idea getting married could cost so little.

  • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
    172·
    16 days ago

    I appreciate the confidence, but girlfriends require time. While it would be cool and could be helpful to have that extra support around, all I can do is provide money and dick.

  • paddirn@lemmy.worldEnglish
    111·
    16 days ago

    Jokes on you, my sex doll is already on the way, be here before Christmas.

  • 3ntranced@lemmy.world
    1·
    15 days ago

    To the other dudes still like me searching for a meaningful relationship, if you haven’t discovered yet there’s a huge part that makes it easier. Become friends first, then date. If you force right into intimacy there’s no relationship developed. It’s not like HighSchool anymore unfortunately, persistence is key but know when to move on.

  • Dorkyd68@lemmy.world
    10·
    15 days ago

    Oh daisy, yet another year has come and gone and yet another year you lie to me. Your words of encouragement are only gonna work like 3 to 4 more times max then I’m giving uo

  • slingstone@lemmy.world
    652·
    16 days ago

    Umm…I think my wife’s going to be upset when she learns I’m getting a girlfriend…