• 1984@lemmy.today
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    5 months ago

    If you are going to be upset about other people like this, you will be in a state of constant anger.

    It’s not your responsibility to control what people do or think. My advice is to let those people be who they are, while you focus on being the best you can be.

    Keep the people you vibe with in your life, and let the others go. Meet your grandfather and just observe him. This is life showing you someone who is hateful, from the sound of it. It’s just an example of who not to be, that’s all it is. Learn from that and remain calm.

    You can do it. :)

    If you are in the right state of mind, you can even smile at horrible things he says, because it’s just about him, not anyone else. You will start to view him as someone funny, like a child that messes up because they don’t know better.

    Don’t fight people you don’t agree with. Just say what you think, and leave. No need to argue at all.

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      5 months ago

      There is wisdom in what you say.

      I tried to help them. I wanted them to see a way without the hate.

      It hurts a lot that they can’t come with me. I love them so much. It’s not okay that I can’t help them. My grandfather. My family. We make our choices.

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        5 months ago

        It is so so so painful to lose a loved one.

        It is excruciating to lose them before they die.

        Even worse is when you see parts of what you liked about them suffocating beneath the propaganda that poisoned them. This is like a threefold death.

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          5 months ago

          “This is like a threefold death.”

          It really is. Grieving is a process and it comes in waves.

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      5 months ago

      You will start to view him as someone funny, like a child

      Well his grandfather is so old he’s probably well on his way becoming a child again.