Keep your head down, find a good network of extended friends/family you can bolt to in tough times if you haven’t already. Your home is likely a pressure cooker you do not want to be in when you don’t have to be. I’m sorry you have to grow up with this, it’s not right.
Sorry hit post too early. Just keep your head down and build your network, that is your armor. Do not let him send you to some sort of “troubled teen” program whatever you do.
See the thing is, children are property and hitting children is totally fine because the law hasn’t recognuzed them as people yet. Wives are barely considered people and hitting them only became illegal a few decades ago.
\s for me, literally accurate for a huge portion of US culture.
If a child is showing signs of lasting marks, bruises, burns, broken bones, or other physical injuries, this is likely abusive.
If it’s leaving lasting bruises, even in Texas that may be where they draw the line? If it happens incessantly, along with verbal abuse, you may be able to get some help.
That being said, getting tossed into the foster care system isn’t often an improvement. My suggestion, besides maybe discretely seeking resources, is to focus on near term goals of becoming self sufficient and getting the hell out of there as fast as you can. Pieces of shit like this guy don’t deserve children.
Well that is beyond fucked up. here in germany you go to jail right away if you slap your child. Using the belt would be considered aggravated assault here and he would be gone for the next 2 years at least. It is completely insane that something like this could be legal.
I’d still document it. When you move out and he asks if you’re coming by for Christmas or whatever just send him a video of him beating you and say “what do you think”.
Post them on Facebook and tag him. Let the world and all his close friends know how he acts.
Do not do the last part. He’s a minor living in fear. Publicly shaming him like that will will almost certainly create an even worse situation if the asshole is prone to physical violence. The key here is for the kid to survive in the short term and escape once they either can get the courts to grant them emancipation or they turn 18. Then after that, therapy so they can learn to move on and thrive.
Dude, at your age, I would go out with friends and not come back until noon the next day. All of that without ever telling them I was going out in first place.
the issue isn’t what time the bedtime is, it’s that there’s a bedtime at all.
I can see a “curfew” for a minor being one thing, but a mandatory bed time for a teenager is crazy to me. This guy is lucky I’m not his son, I’d have made his life hell for trying to control me. But then, I’ve always had issues with and rebelled against authority lol
Start your plans to escape now even though it’s a few years away.
Find sympathetic family members or close friends who’d be willing to take you in. Preferably someone who your dad doesn’t know, or at the least doesn’t know where they live.
Act as you usually would around him, don’t have him suspect anything.
When the time comes, spring your plan into motion. Notify your contacts that you’ll need to be picked up. Pack essentials into a bag. Include vital documentation (birth certificate, social security card, ID) since those can be difficult to replace. Bring your pets if you have them. Leave in the middle of the night when he’s sleeping. Don’t leave a note. Turn off read receipts on your messaging application. Minimize as much leverage as he has over you.
You’re escaping abuse, so your own personal safety here is paramount, don’t feel like you’re obligated to him in any way. He will try to manipulate you if he knows where you went, so it’s best to just ghost entirely.
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Keep your head down, find a good network of extended friends/family you can bolt to in tough times if you haven’t already. Your home is likely a pressure cooker you do not want to be in when you don’t have to be. I’m sorry you have to grow up with this, it’s not right.
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Jesus your father is a jailer.
Does he ever get physically abusive?
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You need to contact CPS right away or whatever your equivalent is if not in the US.
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Ugh fucking Texas
Sorry hit post too early. Just keep your head down and build your network, that is your armor. Do not let him send you to some sort of “troubled teen” program whatever you do.
Seriously. Do ANYTHING before letting him send you somewhere like here: https://elan.school/
WHAT!?!?!??
See the thing is, children are property and hitting children is totally fine because the law hasn’t recognuzed them as people yet. Wives are barely considered people and hitting them only became illegal a few decades ago.
\s for me, literally accurate for a huge portion of US culture.
Ummm, to an extent.
https://texaslawhelp.org/article/corporal-punishment
If it’s leaving lasting bruises, even in Texas that may be where they draw the line? If it happens incessantly, along with verbal abuse, you may be able to get some help.
That being said, getting tossed into the foster care system isn’t often an improvement. My suggestion, besides maybe discretely seeking resources, is to focus on near term goals of becoming self sufficient and getting the hell out of there as fast as you can. Pieces of shit like this guy don’t deserve children.
Well that is beyond fucked up. here in germany you go to jail right away if you slap your child. Using the belt would be considered aggravated assault here and he would be gone for the next 2 years at least. It is completely insane that something like this could be legal.
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As an European, I’m so sorry for you. I hope it gets better. I can’t imagine living in such a crazy country.
I’d still document it. When you move out and he asks if you’re coming by for Christmas or whatever just send him a video of him beating you and say “what do you think”.
Post them on Facebook and tag him. Let the world and all his close friends know how he acts.
Do not do the last part. He’s a minor living in fear. Publicly shaming him like that will will almost certainly create an even worse situation if the asshole is prone to physical violence. The key here is for the kid to survive in the short term and escape once they either can get the courts to grant them emancipation or they turn 18. Then after that, therapy so they can learn to move on and thrive.
Document that shit, leave your phone on recording (discretely away from you).
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Good luck buddy you got this
Dude, at your age, I would go out with friends and not come back until noon the next day. All of that without ever telling them I was going out in first place.
Not to take light of the situation, but 10 pm bedtime isn’t unreasonable if you have problems waking up in the morning.
I have no context therefore I won’t judge.
Please stay safe, it’s unfortunate that humans such as your dad, sir, has children and no idea how to raise them.
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Ok understood. You sound awesome and don’t deserve the ire of that human.
the issue isn’t what time the bedtime is, it’s that there’s a bedtime at all.
I can see a “curfew” for a minor being one thing, but a mandatory bed time for a teenager is crazy to me. This guy is lucky I’m not his son, I’d have made his life hell for trying to control me. But then, I’ve always had issues with and rebelled against authority lol
Start your plans to escape now even though it’s a few years away.
Find sympathetic family members or close friends who’d be willing to take you in. Preferably someone who your dad doesn’t know, or at the least doesn’t know where they live.
Act as you usually would around him, don’t have him suspect anything.
When the time comes, spring your plan into motion. Notify your contacts that you’ll need to be picked up. Pack essentials into a bag. Include vital documentation (birth certificate, social security card, ID) since those can be difficult to replace. Bring your pets if you have them. Leave in the middle of the night when he’s sleeping. Don’t leave a note. Turn off read receipts on your messaging application. Minimize as much leverage as he has over you.
You’re escaping abuse, so your own personal safety here is paramount, don’t feel like you’re obligated to him in any way. He will try to manipulate you if he knows where you went, so it’s best to just ghost entirely.
I feel you. You do not deserve this! No child deserve this…
I hope you have the mental fortitude to survive.