I sympathize and also I disagree that there’s only one curve. Everyone is different about what they like. One person uggo will be someone else’s hotty.
Now, if you’re not conventionally attractive that is definitely harder because everyone’s opinions are skewed.
I also understand that you may feel like just giving up on finding a match. If that’s the case, that’s you’re right. When you really do give up, please stop posting about how it’s impossible to find someone. You’re being discouraging to others who are still trying. And the only other option is State mandated partners. Trust me no one wants that not even you.
Are people really that different in what they like? At least the American movies are portraying the exact same kind of attractiveness, to the point that it gets super boring to watch.
Yes, if you want an example, look at fetishes. Also if you look through history, you’ll find that what people considered attractive varied massively.
But also to your point, the media that we all consume says that this is the kind of person that looks attractive. And so if you ask most people what is attractive, they will tell you the standard Hollywood type.
But I think most people, if they see someone that gives them that happy brain tingle, would go for it even if who they’re looking at isn’t conventionally attractive.
Don’t get me wrong, if you’re not conventionally attractive, it does make things harder, but not impossible.
If you need a modern example, I’m a fat computer nerd, and my wife found me on the internet.
Yeah I agree. There is a lot more to a real life meeting than how people look. That’s why it’s really important to meet people in real life and not on video.
All I’m saying is, when people post these kinds of things, they’re likely not looking for platitudes or advice. If they wanted that, the title of the post would’ve been “someone help me”. It’s okay to let people vent about a situation that sucks for them without telling them all of the things you think they should be doing differently.
Then I’m not sure I can tell the difference between venting and someone giving an opinion that they are willing to defend. I’m also not sure how anyone could tell the difference.
I sympathize and also I disagree that there’s only one curve. Everyone is different about what they like. One person uggo will be someone else’s hotty.
Now, if you’re not conventionally attractive that is definitely harder because everyone’s opinions are skewed.
I also understand that you may feel like just giving up on finding a match. If that’s the case, that’s you’re right. When you really do give up, please stop posting about how it’s impossible to find someone. You’re being discouraging to others who are still trying. And the only other option is State mandated partners. Trust me no one wants that not even you.
Are people really that different in what they like? At least the American movies are portraying the exact same kind of attractiveness, to the point that it gets super boring to watch.
Yes, if you want an example, look at fetishes. Also if you look through history, you’ll find that what people considered attractive varied massively.
But also to your point, the media that we all consume says that this is the kind of person that looks attractive. And so if you ask most people what is attractive, they will tell you the standard Hollywood type.
But I think most people, if they see someone that gives them that happy brain tingle, would go for it even if who they’re looking at isn’t conventionally attractive.
Don’t get me wrong, if you’re not conventionally attractive, it does make things harder, but not impossible.
If you need a modern example, I’m a fat computer nerd, and my wife found me on the internet.
Yeah I agree. There is a lot more to a real life meeting than how people look. That’s why it’s really important to meet people in real life and not on video.
All I’m saying is, when people post these kinds of things, they’re likely not looking for platitudes or advice. If they wanted that, the title of the post would’ve been “someone help me”. It’s okay to let people vent about a situation that sucks for them without telling them all of the things you think they should be doing differently.
This is just venting? https://lemmy.world/comment/9580103
Then I’m not sure I can tell the difference between venting and someone giving an opinion that they are willing to defend. I’m also not sure how anyone could tell the difference.
I suppose that’s a fair point. I can’t make the claim I know that.